the Subject of raising a child with disabilities is one of the important and urgent. Our society is still not tolerant towards children with special needs, including their parents.
Previously we had decided that if the child was born with disabilities, should be left in a public institution, it was believed that's there will take care of it better and that these children have no place in the family.
fortunately, the overall situation is changing, and parents do not abandon their children with disabilities to the polls, but still in institutions many more children with disabilities who need enhanced care, treatment and love. And it's good that society's attitude towards him slowly changing, and these children now also take in foster families.
the specialists working in the sphere of the family unit, there were several challenges: on the one hand, to find the child a suitable family and on the other hand, to prepare candidates to adopt a special child and assess their resources.
How to know that certain candidates are ready to embark on such a difficult path? As the candidates themselves can assess their capabilities and make an informed decision?
in Addition to the assessment of how a parent can deal with the rehabilitation of the child, you must also evaluate the difficulties and society's attitude to himself he'll encounter.
To this end, the school foster parents (PDS), you can use the following exercise:
"the sun child is happiness in the house."
Objective: to explore different aspects of attitudes to adoptive parents and children with disabilities, the attitude of candidates to the education of children with special needs.
Objectives: to give participants the opportunity to put yourself in different positions and explore the theme from different sides, trying on different roles.
1. Divide the participants into four groups. Each group will discuss similar issues but from different points of view. Ask participants to primerit the following roles:
- Child with special needs
- Blood parents raising a child with special needs
- Adoptive parents raising children with disabilities
- Society (society) - people who are not directly related to children with disabilities.
2. Discuss in four groups on the basis of the proposed positions:
- the Feeling with which you live, (being in the role)
- process you have to make to address adults and children
- the Words that we hear in the address and speak to the child or for adults
- future Prospects - both adults and children.
- How do you feel among the people. What does experiencing? How is the interaction with others.
- Difficulties faced. The ways of solving them.
3. After discussion in groups, hear the answers to these questions from all, write down and compare what are the similarities and the differences between sensations in one group or another.
Here are some reference points on which it will be necessary to focus the attention of participants:
Blood parents experience grief and loss of a healthy child. They find it difficult to accept the situation and child, the way he is. Often feel guilty, wondering why this happened to me? Carry your cross, you feel the hopelessness. Can be isolated from the society, if you don't feel supported, and feel that "nobody understands". Very serious injury for life. And the child - a constant reminder of her.
Adoptive parents - for them it is a conscious choice, (if they knew that taking a child with disabilities). Their feelings are radically opposed. They can experience a sense of pride, that took such a heavy child in the family. They receive financial assistance from the state and support from society to a greater extent than blood parents. Sometimes, having a child with disabilities gives foster parents a number of advantages.
*If you read the article, the adoptive parents, they may not agree, but the situation is estimated by most experts.
People who are not involved in the situation (society, society), experiencing fear from not knowing how to interpret and how to respond to children with disabilities. the
Society is divided into 2 camps, one of which accepts children with special needs, and the other not. Due to this, one can step back and experience the disregard for families with children with disabilities, and others will admire their parents and strive to help them.
a Child with special needs
Often, children, and adults with disabilities want to feel sorry for them. They seek to become full participants in society. Need support, rehabilitation and special attention to their health. Dependent adults, as well as from medications and need special medical equipment. Can feel outcast and isolated from society. In certain cases, they can't see and can't evaluate that something is wrong with them.
as a result of the exercise, the group members form the extensional picture, what you may encounter, as we approach the family of the child with disabilities, what you need to be ready to pay attention and therefore more consciously make the decision.