This case was a few years ago. I called and asked to carry out therapy with a woman of 70 years who have had a stroke and is in depression. My first reaction was to refuse. But the voice of the daughter of this woman, expressed much concern and I could not refuse. Although the head lingers the thought that the effectiveness is questionable.
on the appointed day she came. This woman reminded me of my grandmother, what they were like.
I asked her what was bothering her? She said she cries all the time. And children and husband say don't cry. I noticed tears in her eyes, told her about it and dobavilo that I can cry if I want to. And it is a few minutes crying, and I watched in silence. Then he said that when she cries, it looks alive. After a while asked what tears? The answer surprised me. She said that the tears that she can no longer help the kids. I remembered the phrase that "a bad parent who prior to retirement does not feed the children". She smiled. The next question was about the children, they proved to be successful professionals, have families, and generally successful people. In the story of the children she smiled, I could feel her pride in them. The next question was about the fact that it is time to show you care. They care, I now understand the answer. The therapy was done. On her face was a smile.
At the next meeting she told me how surprised her husband when she's in the car began to sing a song. Life came back to her and she agreed for treatment in the neurological Department, although the year was refused. Because it turned out that most of all she prevents dizziness.
In the article, Gianni Francesetti and Yana Ruban "Gestalt approach to working with depressive experience," I read a phrase that made me think: "the Therapist penetrates his ego-functies depressive the patient and making the right choice in areas that can't be constructed today". For myself, I opened it. In depression, the ego-function of the patient is broken so that is identified with the negative pole of the positive experiences and rejects. Health ego-function of the therapist in the process is accompanied by ego-function of a patient, while remaining sensitive to the two poles of experience and at the slightest identification with a positive patient experience, says and returns to him. So he trains and recovers the ego-function of the client. Video attack of the ego-functions of a patient to choose a positive experience does not make sense and causes resistance.
At a meeting in the conference with Jan Robalo, I shared my thoughts. He agreed and added that from the point of view of field theory, the patient and therapist together create a shared ego function. Ie in the meeting created a common field, and the decision come from him.
then I remembered the above-described case, patient came to the decision situation.
I would be grateful for feedback and comments. Maybe you have your eyes on working with depression.