the article Conflicts in school or why the School services of reconciliation was started talking about the shsp and one of such tasks as training adolescents. And in order to train them is necessary before this call.
to Begin with, that teaching adolescents for follow-up work in School service of reconciliation, I do in my practice the second year. The second year are faced with the fact that the school "curators-on-paper" shsp sent to us of children.
- conducting preliminary work with children (even with their parents, grandmothers, grandfathers, school administration and other participants of educational process) to inform about the work of the shsp;
- not understanding that whether child or to do this;
- not caring about what has the child the opportunity to do it (time, desire, etc.);
- does the child the authority of the majority of peers (and it is again necessary preliminary work with children);
- "the curators-on-paper" if not changed often, so very often (monthly, every six months to a year). And, as a rule, are not learning and understanding "what to do" and "what to grab" no, so go with this "long post" in nature;
- "the curators-on-paper" and the school administration are not interested in the work of the shsp, in particular paragraph 1;
- conducting the recruitment procedure.
Here we come unhappy children from disgruntled parents ("another heresy", etc.), "curators-on-paper" ("again, the extra work pushed", "nobody wants it", etc.), dissatisfied with the school administration ("unnecessary work", "will the old-fashioned way", "nobody wants it", etc.). After all, these people do not understand the subject existing in the school only on paper, sincerely (so to speak) don't understand why this is necessary. And supervisors that long time (one to several years) should engage shsp on the one hand must be ideological, on the other hand should be able to defend his role in this case, the role of such services and systematically informed of their role in the educational process.
So, after all of the children of these "sent – don't know where to find it – do not know what you will learn – I don't know what" light up the unit in this activity. When we came back to school and it can fade. Children fade, and unclaimed activity like a swamp... I Want to believe that in their after-school program, children begin to apply the knowledge peacefully grief and giving that fire to others. I want to believe that the truth is somewhere near.
in order to avoid the need to carry out nebor children in the School service of reconciliation. And that this activity was a joy to all workers in the shsp.
So after all how does the recruitment of future students mediatorov?
Normally the set goes like this: the curator bypasses the older classes (usually this is the eighth and the tenth, because they have no exams) and asks them two questions.
the First question involves an anonymous answer and goes something like this: "To whom of the students in your class treat you, if you are with someone quarrel, you have a bad mood or something happened? Please write the name of the person. His name can not write."
the Second question: "we will create a group of students, helping students to resolve conflicts; who are interested to get acquainted with it closer and more about to know, write the second piece of their name".
the result is two lists, the intersection of which there are interested young people, and those, who to contact classmates. If someone called 3-4 people, so the ability to solving other people's conflicts, he is likely to have, and if he himself is interesting – it is a candidate for the basic seminar on restorative mediation.
the list of candidates you can go to the school administrator so they can make adjustments to extend or shorten some of the participants (for example, some of the students overwhelmed him far to travel or something). Thus, it will be heard and the opinion of the administration, and potential mediators and the students of the school.
the opinion of the curator about the participants is also important because it work in the future with these kids and create a team. If the curator believes that someone picks it not work, it is best that teenagers not to invite (at least in the beginning, until the team service of reconciliation is only created).
After the training, some may drop out of the students. Those who decided that to be the mediators bring permission from parents. If the parents do not give permission – curator calls them (or found them) and finds out the reason for the refusal. Perhaps the parents something not understood and they need to explain (for example, that it is not psychological work or how long time it will take to work in service of reconciliation).