About the victims of sexual violence


Not so long ago to me on the initial visit, one after another came three women, who have experienced various emotional difficulties, but each of them had experienced childhood sexual abuse or harassment (honestly, on the third client I have even flashed the thought that it was a hoax, and there are no coincidences, but these were real clients with real similar situations). This sequence of visits allowed me to notice the similarity of emotional state, query, relation to the situation of each client and to make certain conclusions regarding the cause of emotional distress.

In the age of the trauma of sexual violence experienced in childhood, or completely eliminated from the psyche and not conscious of, or under the influence of heavy protective mechanisms is considered to be the customer has already experienced and has no importance. But, of course, without special psychological study it is hardly possible to talk about the real lack of impact of this injury on the person of an adult.

Based on its experience and research in this area, it can be argued that the key negative factor affecting the destruction of the personality, is not the fact of violence, and the interpretation of this fact is the psyche of the victim. And in the first place is unbearable guilt that you experience of the victim. It is the feeling of guilt is the main destroyer of the individual. The victim, according to circumstances, which we will analyze below, after the violence begins to feel a sense of guilt and shame. Many want "something to take", "feel naked in front of others", "feel dirty", "lepers", in General, are the place to be all of those terms and metaphors, indicating instantaneous assigning them negative and unbearable guilt. It is easy to guess that under such crazy pressure and recognition of self with the sign "−", the psyche of the victim remains nothing how to build a heavy duty protective mechanisms, "covering" all aspects of this negative feeling from others, which, of course, affects their emotional sphere in adulthood.

Which still takes the guilt?

1. A child who has experienced violence, believes that he could not resist the rapist or have not done enough to stop him. Given this belief, the child shares the responsibility for the violence with the abuser, becoming like a partner, not a victim. This statement, despite its worth for the customer, is fundamentally false. Since analyzing each case of violence, one can clearly see that without exception, the victim wanted to tell about the attempts of violence immediately, but either refused it because of possible aggression from parents (which tells about the atmosphere of fear and intimidation in the family), or was told, but faced with the cold, indifference, or accusations from parents, which further convinced the child's mind that he was the accomplice and the perpetrator, not the victim. In each case, the victim was much weaker, both physically and intellectually. Therefore remained nothing how to shout to all and Sundry about the injustice (that everyone sincerely wanted), but when faced with unreasonable parental reaction or fear of this reaction, the child remained nothing how to accept the fact of violence and to recognize a partner, while forgetting that he himself in these sexual relationships consciously and voluntarily did not come about, and was involved in them through threats or manipulation, which, due to his children's immaturity is absolutely not aware of that proves the falsity of the beliefs. the
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2. A child has experienced sexual arousal during abuse. This item, like its predecessors, imposes on the victim a sense of guilt, making pseudotyped that he was the accomplice, not the victim. Being exposed to sexual violence, the child does not understand what was happening to him, and, feeling the impact on the erogenous zones, physiologically experience the excitement. However, this process is quite mechanical, and based on the fact that the child has experienced physical arousal from violent actions, does not mean that he consciously and voluntarily chosen. Which again confirms that he is a victim, not an accomplice. From the mind of the victim is displaced by the fact that it quickly or consistently inclined to this act, leaving no choice. Besides, some victims conclude that if they experienced arousal, so they really wanted to. But rather, this stimulation may indicate a mechanical response to the stimulus, and the overabundance of feelings and emotions from "blowing up" the child's psyche than the conscious about choosing a partner and intimate initiate the interaction with it.

3. The inability to show aggression. In psychoanalytic theory, almost any neurosis is the displaced aggression. It is easy to guess that actually have victims, victims of violence. I think that if they have in mind was not social and parental fear, and they during or after the sexual violence had the opportunity in the comics the Hulk turn into much larger and more powerful than their abuser being, they would without a doubt would have crushed the criminal. However, this possibility in reality is not, therefore, victims do not have to suppress this aggression to itself, directing it in the future for yourself or sublimia on other people.

the Key focus and target of therapy is the debunking of guilt on the victim. Gradual cognitive intervention that will help the client understand the irrationality and absurdity of guilt, will help to gradually get the feeling of total aggression against the rapist and sense of innocence. After the release of aggression will be to build new beliefs based on the position I "+", which will eventually lead to lower emotional tension and harmonization of personality.

Ivan Kharchenko
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