This theme is extremely important not only for psychologists but also for their customers, so to begin I will outline their thoughts in the form of some categorical axioms, and there – look at what the end result would be:
* If the psychologist is unable to clearly and intelligently communicate with the subject of death – he is incompetent! Alas, he can't help neither himself nor others. No in loss and grief, or in making crucial decisions.
* Even in areas not directly related (yet, just yet!) with the theme of death: change of work, place of residence, choice of school, change in family, relationships with parents – and he won't be able to seriously prepare the client for the worst to start from “tipping point” in search of the best options.
* This psychologist, alas, avoids controversial topics. He himself glides through life as a young Prince Gautama, not knowing neither grief nor sorrow, at the risk of never become a Buddha.
* it is possible that our “hero” avoids stress, conflict, crises.
* Unfortunately, it turns out that such a psychologist – mentally soft, doughy, cowardly, and there is nothing to do among these psychologists!..
the Psychologist was called to the dying client. The agony was doing to her mind different magic, a dying world filled with terrifying hallucinations, relatives and friends could not help. Tranquilizers – was undesirable, for it could only extinguish the last spark in her mind and expedite the care of the body.
- Oh, falling, falling into the pit! – yells the client.
- Here is my hand, I hold you, - speaks a psychologist, and takes a dying hand.
- And I'm still falling, and will fall! – do not let the client panic does not go away.
- Okay, let's go down to the pit together and see what's at the bottom…
the Client is suddenly in a soft voice:
- What side?
Yes, all is quiet…
Clearly, if the psychologist has not passed thanatological training, did not realize the underlying feelings around this subject, would not be ready for the death of his own – he, like loved ones dying, would have been powerless in working with borderline States of consciousness. May hurried to get everyone (and myself primarily) in another room, and engaged in the processing of consciousness of the living, in the categories ‘Well do it, everything will be there…” In this case, religion or pharmacology will be clearly more appropriate and more effective, isn't it?
Maybe I'm too lifted the bar “real psychologist”? I think not: because if you take away the life of its most important component – certain, inevitable death of the physical body at the end… that all other life will be a little unreal, like cardboard, painted with flowers randomly chaotic imagination, is not it?