we often hear the charges in a strange place!
You listen to the speech: your own or someone you now is next. And only heard: "he's guilty!", "She told me so!" etc.
And do you know the nature of such charges? Why every person wants the other one was to blame? Where is it?
I Will know the charges are directly linked to the ability to take responsibility. And the responsible person does not want to take!
Examples:
- 1. Mother accuses daughter: "You are my whole life ruined! If not for you, I would get married!"
- 2. Brother let his brother temporarily to stay with him. After some time, began to accuse him that he got on his neck.
- 3. The husband says to his wife: "because Of you I can't save any money on the car."
- 4. The wife says to her husband: "You even can not earn, how can you live in poverty?!"
These examples can be continued indefinitely, because almost 90% of the average person consists of complaints, accusations and convictions.
This accusatory speech a person shows their weakness, impotence.
Let's examine the 1st example:
the Mother blames the daughter. But can a child can ruin the life of an independent adult? From such accusations you hear that the mother is unable to cope with the force of a daughter, who in some unknown way she keeps her mother from the marriage. Tied it it? — No. Maybe blackmail staged?
you can Think of anything, but the fact remains:
ADULT PEOPLE (IN THIS CASE, the MOTHER) is AFRAID of RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS actions, FOR DECISION-MAKING.
But afraid of the mother, not the daughter!
Fears can be very different: perhaps her mother is afraid that the man would leave her and so simply does not dare to admit it to myself; perhaps, worried about a daughter, perhaps a man she doesn't really like...
the Conclusion is the same: she's just in it (the man) not sure. And so comes up with for excuses in the form of accusations of his daughter. She's afraid to make a move, which may subsequently be disappointed.
And the daughter is neither here nor there...
in all other examples, and in the reality of life.
Blaming others, we become small and weak, after all, those whom we can blame, have such "power of influence"!
because Of them is all of them!
We can not do anything: neither a decision nor a choice to do or step to step...
Scary!!!! Answer it will have!
a Better way: to complain, complain and DO NOTHING.
and so life goes....
If you want the sickness, the emptiness and depression in adulthood and old age — continue to live blaming others.
If you want to be the MASTER of your OWN LIFE — BRING back the POWER for YOURSELF, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY INTO THEIR own HANDS.
This article may turn the minds if to read carefully and to think about. And then your life will begin to change, I'm sure.
I Wish you success on your way!
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