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do we Depreciate? Devalue.
This is a common action, which we do, it is no exaggeration to say, every day, many times.br>
Consciously and unconsciously.. but we value (and the current storona - appreciate) of what is happening. And not only what is happening. And. And other. And a lot more.a
After evaluation there are good and bad. Here is the depreciation and can be equated to a bad grade)

Because it is too distant to see anything. More or less the same but the attitude we have always. And so what, is another question.
So whether we like it or not like it, but we internally estimate we give. And not only internally.

And a bad rating because you can give and what we actually appreciate. After all, we're masters of their assessments.

why evaluate? Well, this way we build ourselves some guidelines. We absolutely needed certainty. At least some. And we ourselves create.
it's hard to relate to itself and to the surrounding "no"!) So, of course, appreciate. And somehow relate.

And in these aligned orientations we go through life. These benchmarks we set ourselves your way. And life consists of our actions and deeds.

How do we assess? On what basis?br>
I Guess based on the usual criteria, in which we grew up. They began to be laid in deep childhood (can be considered before - it depends on what kind of explanatory system that we use) and further shaped as we grow older.br>
Here and parental attitudes, and social norms, and our own experience in all its diversity... Yes, much more.br>
So, we evaluate almost everything that falls into the area of our perception. Sometimes implicitly.
Compare with their internal "standards" and the verdict: good/bad.br>But in fact this is only true for yourself!! And not at all good or bad.

That is, knowing that not to appreciate it is absolutely impossible, has a direct reason to be aware that it is not absolute. That's not only true always and for everyone, but only for the person who evaluates. That is just for us.

Even better, I would say, to formulate not good/bad, and "I to like orI not like it."

And the other may like or not like something else.

Because the truth to the people, of course, none of us has. And everyone is entitled to their opinion (their assessment of)

to claim such a knowledge of the truth in the final instance this, in a sense, the claim to divinity))

In General, we must admit that we appreciate and depreciate for ... for his own good.
Well, of course, as our psyche that understands))

are There any benefits from depreciation? Well, of course.br>
That's why, for example, people give a bad assessment of what really like?br>
It may be, say, from feelings of envy. So as not to feel in some way disadvantaged or flawed. Then it is easier to devalue and not to suffer. That is to protect yourself from experiencing his own lack of "goodness". Benefit? Benefit.br>
Or, alternatively, to protect yourself from someone else's jealousy and consequent aggression. When the envier tries to humiliate, it is better to consider themselves inferior, so as not to face someone else's anger.
so, for example, a beautiful woman can dress in "rags" and not to follow him, so as not to attract unwanted attention.the
Benefit? Benefit. Though doubtful))

Here it should be noted that most of these so-called benefits of obscenity something good, what we own or what we like is very, shall we say, contentious.
But in any case the depreciation is constructive character, so that when we explicitly raise the rating. Then the partial devaluation brings us back to reality. It is in this case useful.

I mean, we are free to make sure that we have something assigned, as to reduce unduly and unreasonably inflate.br>
And then we can face the phenomenon of super-value.br>
After all, what is overvalued? This "or - all or - nothing". True?br>
Or take the perfectionism. Only is and nothing more.br>
And then there is the fear of failing to reach the ideal.the
Shame that's not good enough and could. The blame for future mistakes are inevitable. And so on.
the Emotions are so strong that they block the ability to think straight. And, as a result, it is better not to do.)
And so hard to start, because anxiety is through the roof. Motivation to act decreases.
And why? The super-value!br>

the super-value significantly interfere. Depreciation can help reduce the passions. And to contribute to the inclusion of the brain. And, thus, facilitate the beginning of rational action.br>
At the same time, the total depreciation also reduces motivation. Because why do something that no has no value?br>
to Find the Golden mean, as close to the real situation is not so simple.br>
it is Therefore very useful when appraising anything else, to remember that we are not gods. And all the information to own can't. br>
And in order to make the actions that make up our life, it is very desirable to understand that for us it is important and what is not.

And it is useful to discuss this with people whom we trust. Because people need other people. We and surrounds.




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Galina V.
2018-02-01
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