the Child reaches the age of puberty, which marks a family crisis, which is the need of the family to adapt to the fact the child gets older and reaches puberty. With child reaches adolescence before the family there is a need for structural changes.
This period at the Microsystem level, the psychological functioning of the family can be seen as intra-family struggle for the maintenance of the existing hierarchical order. Parents lose the power that existed before and must begin to reckon with the growing competence of their child.
Teenager need to pass your identity crisis. At the same time stay only in the role of son/daughter becomes insufficient in order to adapt to adult life.
the Teenager is looking for new models of self-realization, expanding the scope of their social contacts beyond the family. Facilitate this process, support from family and confidence in its reliability.
during this period, the teenager is inherent duality in relation to the parents: the experience of love to the parents and depreciation associated with the need to separate from family, gives rise to intrapersonal conflict.
the Inconsistency of a teenager, often, difficult is experienced by parents themselves and causes ambivalent feelings associated with the desires of the over-control of the child, to maintain its autonomy. So there is a clash of conflicting tendencies: on the one hand the desire of parents to see their children independent, and the other — the desire to control the life of a teenager.
In these circumstances the family is going through a difficult period associated with the need to reallocate responsibilities in the family and determine the degree of responsibility of the teenager.
the Family must come to agreement about things that can meet the child, and for what and what are the responsibilities of parents. This process can be painful, accompanied by conflicts, lack of understanding on both sides, unwillingness to reckon with the feelings of each other, attempts of parents to strengthen control over the teenager and the emotional detachment from his real difficulties.
For the child adolescence is a very difficult time; identity is not yet formed.
Any interference in his life provoke anxiety and are perceived as a threat to integrity. The body changes: girl gets girl, boy — boys. These changes may be a factor of the complications of parent-child relationship if the parents have their own unresolved conflicts in the interaction with members of either gender.
during this period, spouses are often faced with changes in their lives that causes a reassessment of the marital relationship. If it leads to a split of the parent (married) dyads, the child is prone to unite with one or other parent to gain more freedom. As a result, the family may experience intergenerational coalition.
the success of the passage of this period is associated with parental experience of separation from their parent families, if the parents had difficulties in the separation from his family, they will tend to cultivate a dependency in your child. Adolescents who are not able to separate from their parents, may develop depressive symptoms. Depressive symptoms may develop if the teenager is trying to meet the needs of parents to the detriment of their own.
the Course of the family crisis may worsen attributable to this period of personal crisis "mid-life" parents.
Besides, the force, duration, and painfulness of the experience of a family in this transition period is largely determined by the quality of overcoming previous crises.
"Chick peeking out of nest" – a period of difficult, filled with drama and different kinds of conflicts. As with any crisis, a family crisis "Chick peeking out of nest" requires a change of way of life – lifestyle, way of thinking, attitude to oneself and the world. The resolution of any crisis situation has two outputs. The first is the preservation of an existing family order, the second is openness to new opportunities and overcoming fear of changes.
an Adequate resolution of the crisis gives the family as a whole and all its participants go to the next stage of development in a transformed, new, interesting quality.
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