Not always physical separation from a partner puts an end to our relationship. Often we say that it is important not just to decide to go your own way, but emotionally letting go of your former (former). There are a few rules that, if observed, we increase their chances for safe living of the gap and gaining emotional freedom.
1.To withstand the pain of parting to the end, go through the stages of grief. First there will be denial of what is happening "this can't be!" then the anger stage, "it's all because of him (her)!", after the anger stage of bargaining "come back, I will change and everything will be as before" or "I'll do anything you want, just don't leave me", then despair, powerlessness and only after this stage of adoption. It is important not to rush yourself, living every stage. Often people tend to skip over the stage of anger, aggression, saying "I forgive you", but true forgiveness and release here.
2.To remember and to acknowledge that he gave good us partner. Often, a couple breaks up on that one gave to another any more, but therefore, the need to balance the books, remembering the good. It must have been. If we remembered only complaint – the emotional divorce does not take place.
3.To share the responsibility. A typical situation where one of the partners "in the dirt", and the second with "halo". But in reality, the relationship built by two people. And even if we are faced with the fact that we have abandoned, is to think about what was our contribution to these relations that could be missed partner. In the end, if we believe that partner is the "devil incarnate" at least our liability that we chose this and made the decision to live with him.
4.To have equal access to communications. It concerns children, together Pets wound and any material goods. As soon as there is a ban to meet the child, or one of the partners tries to Rob another, the point is not put. Under various pretexts, we are trying to avenge their pain by denying the partner's property or making hostages of their own children. But then none of what freedom from a relationship out of the question, we choose offense.
5.To formulate good wishes to the former partner about the future. "I'm with you was good. Thank you was (were) near. I'm letting you go".
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