In the previous parts we talked about what myths are, how they affect us and what are. I want to put emphasis on the fact that myths in any family lot. And they can be the opposite. Some very bright and positive influence on us, others barely noticeable. Some of the myths we like, and we live and rejoice, others hinder us narrow the possibilities.

Since myth is the promise of the past, it is important to understand that it has to what's good, what's bad. Even if you think that there is nothing good, it means that for you, here and now in this myth is definitely not anything good. Because any myth initially is protective. And it carries the memory about how to survive in difficult conditions.

Now we will try to catch their myths more to recognize the promises that they contain.

To start.

  • Think of the older generation and communication with them. With whom you talked, were together, doing something together. And as they said, and did? What do you remember from your grandparents sayings, jokes. Immerse yourself a little in this atmosphere. Surrender to memories. If grandmothers – grandfathers did not work, then think of the phrase parents. They are just there from something I learned.

for Example, I grew up with the sayings: to put away, take a closer look; as you sow, so shall you reap; nothing that won't heal; curious Varvara Bazaar nose torn off; want - want.

  • now, write those Proverbs untranslatable play on words, often repeated phrases or actions, tell stories that you can remember.

we Need to remember and write down at least 7 of these legacies. And so, the more the better. 10 minutes write down everything that comes to mind. You can do it on a specific topic that you care about the most. For example, on the subject of money, work, health. Or just that come to mind.

for Example, you may have this list:
  1. Bread cannot be dropped
  2. God is patient and told us.
  3. One day feeds a year.
  4. Hefty b good!
  5. a Lot of want – get a little.
  6. You know a lot – get old quickly!
  7. the Custom is the biggest piece of the pie to give the youngest member of the family, the rest a little bit.
There is a notion of formula of myth. It is as follows: "We are the ones who ...". This formula determines which message comes from the past. How it defines my image of myself that I do not do and when? Try to discover the "formula", that is a promise, from each line of the list. If multiple phrases in the same vein, you can combine them and find them one formula of the myth.

for Example: "We are the ones who: cares for products; knows how to survive in tough times; is able to stock; able to inspire others to help; know the value of modesty, etc.

Choose one myth or promise, which you now hinder and work with him.

  • Who and how to broadcast this myth? In what situations, under what circumstances it was said this phrase or have performed some kind of action? What is this myth helps or could ever help? What's stopping you?

If you take the phrase "those who chase two rabbits will receive." As the value of modesty manifests itself now in my life? More helps or hinders?

Even if you went on Antananarivo behave, on the contrary, it is not modest – that means still, the myth alive. br>
Or, for example, respect to the products helped when – that to survive, and now the way that the feeling of guilt when food is spoiled, and they should be discarded. Or spent a lot of time and effort to "streamline" (another Granny word).

  • As the existence of this myth is reflected now in a relationship with children, parents, partner or society? It should be a purely behavioral things.
    for Example, I can because of his "false modesty" to give up something pleasant and desirable. And then be sad about it. Here is another example, very curious. Respect to the products. In class work breaking in the dough egg, I collected the remains of the inner part of the shell, as did the grandmother and mother (a legacy of hunger, which my ancestors lived). Can you imagine how I looked at school the teacher and classmates. And I was amazed that it turns out not everyone does! I think if you look at your experience, you will find their stories, where they had to survive difficult emotions, because of the unawareness of his "chest of the past."

And now, after loosening of the background, let's get to work on the deconstruction of the myth.

Schema deconstruction of the myth:
  1. the Main essence of the work with the myth is the reconstruction of the history of its occurrence.

is There any knowledge about the history of the past that have shaped the myth?

If you do not know, then ask the question: What kind of story would be behind this? As it seems, how many generations ago it happened? Fantasies, as this myth might appear. Invent the story.

– what do you think happens when we dig this story? Yes. It is the energy of myth is weakening.

2. Next, in a symbolic key to create space to this story, revives her. For example, create it through figurines, chairs, cards, and develop and immersed in history.

Immersed so much that we had feelings for our ancestors. Modify the history to a state of gratitude, or at least a sense of respect: "I'm sorry you have been so". After all, there was always something heavy.

3. Because the myth is a reminder and a way to remember the event, it is important to find a new way to do it. Already a conscious way.

We can start to remember it differently. The energy is unlocked and can be clothed in a new form.

Create this experience. How will you remember it differently?

Example: going to Church, they put a candle, to pray; will plant a tree. Will remember about the story using what you learn, as a grandmother, sour cabbage for the winter. And then we must not follow the myths and promises of the old is not simple, and will consciously and Svoboda. A form of memory has changed.

In conclusion.

had a choice. We do not blindly follow no one, unwritten rule, and knowing the myth, you can choose how to act. In the language of Gestalt therapy, this is where we are regaining awareness. Included our Ego – function.

And now, when we sincerely and gratefully went over and aired things out of his "chest of the past", we can consciously put on grandma's "caftan" or modernize it to your liking!

Trofimova Tatiana
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