How can you support a child in grief


Even the smallest child experiences the pain of losing a loved one, but the children learn how to grieve by watching the adults around. After a death, especially a brother, sister or a parent, child support is important, stability and honesty. The child may need more care and sense of security. adult man, you can support your child in the process of grief, showing him that it is perfectly normal to experience sadness, as well as helping to learn to live.

Help a grieving child:

●Allow your child, no matter what age he was, to attend the funeral if he wants it.

● Talk about your spiritual values concerning life and death, or pray with your child.

● Children understand much more than sometimes assume adults. If you bring your child to the process of grief along with the rest of the family, it will help it is easier to adapt and survive grief.

● Meet regularly with the family so that the child saw how each family member copes with the loss.

● Help your child find or think of a symbolic, commemorative objects associated with the deceased person.

● Try to keep a daily schedule and usual routine, not changing them as much as possible.

● watch Carefully as your child plays, the game – can be a way to interact, "dialogue" with their grief.

● Allow yourself to cry in front of your child, it may be a message for him to Express his feelings - this is normal.

to Worsen or exacerbate the experience of grief in a child may steps:

● to Force a child to publicly cry and Express feelings associated with grief, if he doesn't want it.

● to Talk about or convoluted phrases such as, "Grandma's sleeping."

● Prevent the child from crying because others feel too sad.

● try to "protect" the child from death by removing him from the process of grief.

● to Hide my tears.

* Use your child as a "crying shoulder". Instead, use the assistance of another adult or professional, attend group psychological support.

Try to find the answers to all the questions asked by the child. When you talk about death, use very simple, honest and specific words. Children, especially younger age, can blame himself for what happened, and the truth can help him to understand that he is not guilty.

an Open conversation will help the child to talk freely about their negative experiences. Children often Express their feelings through stories, games, drawings, so it is important to encourage such expressions. Watching the activity of the child, to see how he copes with his grief.

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Ekaterina Protopopova

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Ekaterina Protopopova
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