previous article (https://www.b17.ru/article/113600/) we talked about what adaptation to kindergarten, what happens to the child at this time, as can occur adaptation in children with varying degrees of willingness to visit, how to prepare the child for the visit to the children's institutions ... All these points are relevant and important to children of any age.
Addictive kids 2nd year of life for kindergarten has its own characteristics. And they need to know and take into account when making family decisions – to give up the baby for 1.5 – 2 years to kindergarten or to wait up to 3 years of age? Let's talk about it?
If a three year-old, preparing for kindergarten already has it, some self-help skills, has a pretty wide experience of communication with adults and feels the need of children in society, one and a half to two year old child less able to adapt to separation from home, the weaker and more vulnerable. Found that at this age, adaptation to the child care provider is longer and harder, often accompanied by disease. In this period there was rapid physical development and maturation of all mental processes. Being at the stage of formation, they are the most vulnerable to fluctuations and even breakdowns. The change of the environmental conditions and the need to develop new behaviors require effort and skill on the part of the child, cause the intense stage adaptation. How a child is prepared in the family to move into an institution, depends on the course of the adaptation period (which may last sometimes for six months), and further development of the baby.
Take into account that at an early age of the baby are forming new relationships with adults: to replace the emotional comes to business communication.
what is emotional contact from the business, practical? And why is it important to know the parents?
First of all, that emotional relationship is selective. They are built based on the experience of personal communication with those closest to you.
you Remember that your child is a baby first months of life is equally friendly to any adult and it was enough for the most simple signs of attention, so he responded to them with a joyful smile, goo goo, pulling the handles? But from the second half of life the baby began to distinguish clearly between friends and foes? About 8 months in children fear or displeasure at the sight of strangers. The child shuns them, pressed against the mother, sometimes crying. The parting with his mother, which had occurred almost painlessly, suddenly begins to bring the baby in despair, he refuses to communicate with others, from toys, loses appetite, sleep.
Parents, it is important to take seriously the appearance of these symptoms. After all, if the child will get used to communicate only with his mother, he will have difficulties in establishing contacts with other people.
compared to the emotional communication, having an intimate, personal basis, practical interaction not connected with the habit to a certain person. Because in this case both partners act with the object that draws the baby to her and makes you forget about that adult nearby, a little familiar. Of course, the child would rather play with a close friend than with a stranger, but if he has the means to establish business contacts, he quickly gets used to a stranger, including a new system of relations that does not require emotional intimacy.
the Transition to a new form of dialogue is needed. Only he can be the key to the successful entry of the child in the wider social environment and being successful in it. But the way this is not always easy, and to pass it requires a lot of time. Need and attention from adults.
There is a clear pattern between the development of subject activity of the child and his addiction to the manger. Children who know how long, varied and focused to act with toys, adaptation occurs relatively easily. First time in the manger, the child quickly responds to the proposal of the teacher to play, explores new toys. In times of trouble, he tries to overcome with ingenuity and patience. If he has something does not work, the kid asks for help from an adult, carefully watching his actions, trying to repeat them. Such children are in love with for adults to solve substantive problems (for example, to open the box with the secret or figure out a way to get far lying thing). For a child who playing, it is not difficult to get in touch with any for adults because he owns the means required for this. High level of development of the subject, the ability to establish business contacts with the adult gives the child positive emotions during the stay in the nursery and ensure rapid adaptation.
a Characteristic feature of children who have great difficulty getting used to the conditions of preschool institution is the weak formation of the action items, which are carried out mainly at the level of manipulation. Trudnoudalimymi children are not able to focus on the game without initiative in the choice of toys, incurious. The slightest difficulty is their unwillingness to play the caprices. These children do not know how to establish business contacts and prefer them emotional.
So, dear parents, to properly prepare your baby for admission to the nursery. In addition to hygiene promotion activities health, bringing day mode in accordance with the terms of the child care facility should be carried out purposeful work on formation of the child's age-appropriate forms of communication with adults and the development of subject activity.
How to help your child develop this very subject?
- You can help your child select toys to replace the missing items other, to learn to work together. Do not forget to promote any successes of the baby - and then cooperative play would be his desired occupation. Gradually reduce their activity, giving the child greater freedom of action. Over time, you have to change places with him, so he initiated a new type of communication.
- Regular 10 to 15-minute subject of the game will quickly form at the child the need for them. Gradually, the activity of the baby will grow and eventually it will start to play independently, and the desire to have a partner displace the desire to sit on your lap.
Playing with your child, you need to discipline, accuracy. He should know that toys should be handled with care, and after the game to clean them in place. Schooling to order the best exercise is also in the form of a game. Your imagination and knowledge of the characteristics of the baby will help you choose the right course of action with him in this direction.
- of Course, you must teach the child and the ability to use household items, gradually accustom it to self. How different in this respect, the children of the same age in the nursery! Some sit passively on the couch and wait until the teacher starts to put on warm pants, boots and jackets, the other without a reminder to open their lockers, carefully and neatly pull clothes and they are happily running in the yard. The same pattern can be observed at the dining table, and into the arena where the children play. The passivity, the constant expectation that the adults will feed, clothe, cuddle, play, is unlikely to make the child happy with my stay in child care.
- To make it easier to enter into a new social environment, along with classes in the family it is helpful to encourage his interaction with other people. Your baby is older, and you probably not lead such a secluded life, as it was after his birth. You have friends and you go to visit, sometimes bringing a son or daughter. Try to make sure that other adults are not only patting your child on the head or admired his appearance, but also played a little with him. The wider community in a home environment to raise a child's confidence in people, openness, ability to get along with them. Getting rid of excessive attachment to family will help the baby get used to new surroundings.
In a relatively short time (about a month) the child's behavior may change significantly. It will be fun to play together with adults willing to fulfill his requests, react to praise and blame. And this need to painless to get used to kindergarten!
If you are experiencing difficulty adapting to all the conditions of preparation of the child consult a specialist – a psychologist that will help, understand, give advice.
Until next time!