This summer flew by...ahead of the new school year, new knowledge, new experiences and new challenges. For someone this year – the next stage in elementary school, someone in the stretch, but for some students it will be the first school year in their life. And this, of course, very exciting for the future first graders and their parents. The child is in an unfamiliar environment, experiencing a lot of stress. But parents worry less. In mind a lot of questions on how the new situation will affect the child's performance? will he be able to join the team? how will the relations with teachers? what to give him advice? how to help deal with pending difficulties? And a whole bunch of questions that do not always have a ready and correct answer. Let's not panic ( after all, children are easily "read" our state, which will be transferred to them) and figure out how to still help your child the most "painless" experience such a important and responsible period. br>
first and foremost, all parents need to try to remember how they came "first time in first" class and that felt and feared. Very well, if you get to recall not just events and episodes, and the feelings that you felt during this period. Try to go back in time and analyze your condition - what do you expect from the school? from adults? what words of affirmation want to hear from your elders? what fears arise when you first entered the classroom? Try as much detail as possible to remember this time. So you put yourself in the place of the child and can clearly see all the difficulties and problems which have to work with you and your child. br>
But if you think of the moment when your child will go to school, you can breathe easily and fully trust educational function of teachers is also a big mistake! In the period from you, on the contrary, will require the most listening to as a child to keep track of possible difficulties in adaptation and to help them to cope successfully (to adjust its fears, to help you become more confident to teach the student not to be afraid of difficulties, etc.). br>
And do not rush things. Even after a month the child is not adapted to the end in school. It will take a lot of time – from two months to six months. Even if the adaptation was delayed, that's not a reason to panic - getting used to a new environment can be difficult and very individual. There is an important role and temperament of the child, and the level of school readiness, and the degree of socialization, and character. Consider all possible factors. br>
so, we formulate the main challenges faced by the newly minted first-graders and see how these difficulties can be overcome. br>
Unwillingness to learn, laziness. br>
"I Want back to kindergarten, there are not forced to do homework"
Diana.

One of the most common complaints of parents of school – "my child is lazy". Do not rush to blame the child , blame him that he was "bad" and compare with peers. The phenomenon as laziness can hide a lot of problems that need attention. It could be insecurity, fear of failure in the educational process, poor motivation, fatigue ( additional lessons, clubs, etc.), the slowness as a feature of temperament, and more. Before diagnosing the child spoiled, find out if there are other reasons why a student may begin to show disinterest in studies. And if such reasons are identified, talk to your child and try to help find motivation and to stop being afraid of the learning process. Think of a reward system, praise the child for him, even while minor achievements, talk about what is most disturbing children at school. br>
Difficulties in communicating with peers

"the Other kids teasing me. And the boy I sit prevents me to write"
Tanya K.

the Second of the relevance of the problem is the difficulty in communicating with classmates and peers. If you notice that your child returns from school depressed, happy at any excuse to skip classes, rarely or never talks about his classmates, often crying or worry, never communicates in a friends phone, behaves aggressively, is to figure out what is the relationship of your child with other children. Find out who it offends, what are you laughing at what others say students. And not just in a hurry to criticize and blame the child or his classmates. If a child laughing in connection with the peculiarities of his behavior (tics, enuresis, etc.), be sure to inform the teacher. But do not make a public "punishment" to the perpetrators of the conflict, so you will only aggravate the situation. As a rule, children begin to "poison" those peers which are easily being provoked, and your attempts to shame, "put in place" the offender to encourage him to look for new ways to "persecution". Try to ensure that the child communicate with his peers outside of school (clubs, art classes, etc.), where he will feel more confident and will find friends with the same interests. Feeling the confidence in the other group, the child will be able to gradually adapt and in school. br>
the Fear of the teacher

"I'm afraid to raise my hand because the teacher is strict. What if I say wrong and I get scolded?"
Konstantin.

first of all, meet and talk with the teacher, find out whether the child has reason to fear him or a problem in unfounded fears of the student. If the teacher is really too strict and demanding, let's talk on this theme like a child and with the teacher, try friendly, without conflict, to explain to the teacher of your child. A child can explain that the rigor of teachers is not always a sign of hostility or negative attitude toward him personally, try to teach him the correct behavior in communication with the teacher in certain situations. If the child's fears are not justified , it probably is insecurity or a fear of school and new environment in General. Give the learner time, perhaps he has not had time to settle into his new role, support him, explain that his fears have no Foundation, work out in addition that the child is able to feel a little more confident. If the child could not overcome these fears, you can also go to a psychologist. He will identify and take into account all features of your child and build a competent and individual program adaptation. the
Poor performance

"First, I put four, and then I became a C student. Mom says if I study I won't, I'll be a poor student and I was kicked out of school"
Serge T.

Here is to pay attention to the possible causes of poor academic performance, they may be the following: the desire to be first in everything, low self-esteem, family problems and health is poorly developed attention, thinking, imagination, negative expectations of the teacher, self-doubt. If a child is poor at learning the program, this is not an indicator of laziness and spoiled, most likely this is one of the above reasons or a combination of them. Identify what was or could be the cause of poor academic performance, and work on this problem (read the literature on child psychology find a game to develop attention, thinking, talk with your child about his / her progress, ask the teachers how the child behaves in the classroom, etc.). Do not skimp on the praise and does not demand from the child impossible. The desire to be first in everything will develop the student unhealthy perfectionism and will lead to a lot of undesirable consequences. But don't let it go, control how the educational process and causing difficulties in the child. br>
the human Psyche and the child in particular is a complex mechanism, in addition to the foregoing there may be other individual causes. But whatever the barriers to adaptation of a student in elementary school, you have to remember that all these problems are avoidable and solvable. And the sooner parents identify and work through the problem, the better. Remember that poor performance, fears and insecurity is not a death sentence! Be a friend to your child and pay close attention to what was troubling him. Thus, you not only help to settle the child in elementary school, but also to adapt to adult life in General.