a Person can help all your friends to be faultless in many respects, but often he is ashamed to ask even their loved ones about something important or not. He can be quite self-sufficient, but at the same time in every life there are moments when next need someone who can help, money, advice, devote time and attention, etc.
to help each Other to overcome the resistance, go through pain and suffering, to be there for him in difficult times. How ready are we for it? more people willing to help others than to ask for help, being in a similar situation.
Any challenge can be taken alone, but not all of them really perform without assistance.
Someone is waiting for what others will guess about his needs and offer themselves to help – babysit, to borrow, to help around the house or work, etc. Other, as a rule, do not guess. They are busy solving their own problems. And unless you ask, you do not get. But if you ask, you have a chance to get what you want!
the Knock at different doors and you will open. Opportunities at every step. The question is what we want and what we do. No wonder in Russian folklore many sayings on this subject: "the Demand is not a sin, failure doesn't matter", "For demand of money do not take, Fail, not the butt, bumps on your forehead will not" "What I want to and I ask", "ask Not what you can't take", "Give – take; getting after – run!" etc.
Sometimes, Another offers his help, but the man refuses. Out of pride or other motives. Just very hard, and the Other the next time may not offer. by the Way, whoever called in a favor and got in return sincere thanks, next time will be more is back to help you.
This "help" often becomes a burden. And this is called manipulation. After all, if a person really wants to help, he asked the opinion of another: "can I/you help? What can I do to help? It would be helpful for you?" And when they answer, they really do help, and it is valuable.
Help the assistants, tell me what you need. If you're not specific in the wording, people will have to guess what they should do for you and render the service as they see fit. And don't forget in the future to thank them. gratitude is the act of recognition is important and valuable for both parties.