Who among us has not experienced in different periods of life, viscous, sticky and debilitating feeling, which I wanted to hide, to disappear, to sink into the ground.
And there it is from their own seemingly absurd, uncertain and awkward of gait, unnatural behavior and confusion, directed in his direction snide and contemptuous smirks and haitani coming, following taunts and ridicule.
And this surging feeling stronger braziers of hot coals tormented soul and wounded heart, Zhalilo personality, giving rise to resentment and storing up wrath.
Thick colored thread piercing the fabric of personality inferiority complex. Here you can find dull tone inconsistencies, gloomy shades of insolvency, the stain of inferiority, flashy colors false shame and a permanent fault.
Disability, etymologically, is not the total value or worth of a man, inadequate and insufficient assessment itself with a lack of integrity.
In the world of three-dimensional reality this is not surprising, because the limited vision plus strongly promoted and implanted in the daily subjective evaluation does not allow us to see themselves and to embrace your multidimensionality, respectively, the real picture.
an inferiority Complex is not always neurotic syndrome, as described by its clinical psychology. It is a symptom, covering moral, physical, aesthetic, sexual, ethnic, class, religious and other spheres of human activity.
the Primary manifestations of the complex visible in early childhood, and with the gradual maturing of amplified and implanted into the structure of the developing personality.
the Parent environment is the main model for developing personality of a small child. And how naturally and harmoniously it fits into the ideological picture of the child so much less noticeable and the poses are complex and limitations in sensitive periods of his maturity.
unfortunately, very often the little man is in, when the feeling of helplessness is compounded by a sense of rights, inability to live freely and make independent decisions.
the Reasons for this are many and they are very definitely indicate flaws education:
- inadequate or excessive demands for child
- proprietary and consumer attitude to his child
- underline the dependence of the child from his parents
- educational authoritarianism and directiveness
- pointing the child to his inferiority or insignificance
- delineation of hard boundaries of personal space of the child
- excessive pretensions parents
- comparison of personal qualities and abilities of the child in favor of other peers
- the attitude towards children as a burden
- the lack of parity relations
- the imposition of a set of prohibitions, under penalty of
- restriction of personal liberty of children
- demand from the child of expected behavior
- use common educational model: the whip - stick
- photosatellite and non-perception of the child seriously
- the habit of lying to children under any pretext
- underline the personal superiority of the parents to their children
- deliberate or unconscious undervaluation of self-assessment of the child
- lack of understanding of the needs of the developing personality of the child
- shifting parents primary educational role in schools and kindergartens.
These errors education are inherent in varying degrees, to most people, especially early in their development as parents. Because unconsciously imitating educational models for their own parents, young families come to the same painful striking rake of fatherhood and motherhood.
How to untie this Gordian knot of centuries, formed in conditions of a small denial of the citizen as self-aware and the more spiritual beings?
the Best, in my opinion, fashion is a recognition of the fact that to educate and teach the child in the common sense and sense of the word, is not necessary and even harmful. Because the doctrine of implied authority and execution of written truths, or rules, which in many ways has outlived its usefulness or, worse, intentionally interfere with the little artists syncretic to know the world in its complete diversity.
Also "the socio-cultural normative models" of education is unlikely to serve as a model for individual development of today's children, but rather "adjust" them under a certain public standard.
we Need to let kids just be, soaking up life lessons according to their own intention and desire, offering a variety of opportunities to learn independently.
And examples of this alternative model of child development, different from the conventional pedagogical is, and it has not once proved to the public their worth and efficiency.
Pedagogical system of Montessori, school Schetinina, and Waldorf pedagogy, incorporating many of the best ideas of the past and proposing innovative models of educational and educational process in the present context, also serve as a model and legacy for slowoperation skills of future generations.
But in any case, personal responsibility has not been canceled and the basics of education need to learn anyone who tries to assume a parental role.
this requires a broader view of the educational process and to consciously admit to following information.
I think many have accepted the fact their repeated coming into the world or at least admit the possibility. And if so, then we only need to allow to remember the rules on planet Earth, according to their own design, interests and preferences, while maintaining all key values based on three main laws: the law of Free Will (Freedom of Choice), the law of Neprijemne Harm and the law of Love.
in preparation for the next earthly journey, the man carefully plans and chooses its own parents, in the case of a sufficient development of the soul, or this choice is bilateral according to the law of Attraction.
In any case, allowing its sons to be navigators in early childhood, when the waves of life are still too large and sometimes dangerous for self to overcome them little traveler, leaving behind the captain's care, the parents give them the responsibility, a critical component of their emerging individuality.
Thus, a small person, yet not lost contact with a knowledgeable soul, but fully trusting their mentors and guardians, develops in proportion to the need of mastering life programs.
So the little citizens learning to learn life lessons, without excessive supervision or pressure and overpressure and the pressure is most convenient and comfortable method.
To to achieve this understanding and not to be a source of children's complexes important:
- to love their child, surrounding a soft, with care and sensitivity
- be sincere and genuine in relationships
- always listen to children's interests and needs
- learn to accept and understand their point of view, whatever it was
- they had no one to compare and evaluate to
- encourage children's creativity in any way possible
- allow the child to participate equally in all family events
- substitute requirements for children voluntarily taken sole responsibility
- do not use pressure, threats, blackmail, and manipulate
- not shy away from their requests using various excuses
- respect the personal space of small individual
- to instill and cultivate ethical and aesthetic perception of life
- never to cheat and not tell half-truths
- to provide freedom of choice
- not to punish for on-KAZ ( Ukr. Casati – speak) there is a hex or negative energy effect (damaging the etheric double of the physical body of the child), and give the opportunity to draw the right lessons and insights of what both sides
- to be for children is a loving example of family happiness and harmony of the spouses.
If your children are not at the very tender age of early childhood, and the complexes already formed, then all previous advice is still not to be redundant, helping you to revise my position and possibly find not only their educational deficiencies but also the joint overcoming of existing problems.
Though often self-detect, and even more to free himself from the influence of the complexes, is quite difficult without skilled assistance is not enough.
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