how to start psychotherapy or short instruction to novice customers.
the Profession of psychologist and psychotherapist increasingly popularized in our society, which is certainly a good sign. It means people have become more attentive to their problems. No longer willing to ignore the serious condition and ready to invest energy to make their lives better.
however, around the profession to this day, many myths, which are partly in this article I will try to dispel. So, what did begin psychotherapy?
With the realization that something is wrong. With readiness to take their problem to the expert to allow it. how motivated the client, depends largely the success or failure of the project. It is important to understand that psychotherapy is a mutual process. None of even the most talented pros are not able to change your client. In the literal sense. Changes occur in the client only with his "permission". And contribution to the process of the client depends on how quickly these changes will occur. Or not come. I think an analogy with the desire to bring order to the body, coming to the gym. By purchasing a membership to the fancy club with the latest exercise equipment and the most highly skilled coaches, it is foolish to expect that changes will come by themselves. How people are invested in training, and will depend on the result. Just go on the treadmill and lie on her back the same thing to run on it, sweating and burning calories. Coach - your guide to the world of beautiful toned figure. He has a technique of training and equipment for her. But if you are paying for a subscription, will not work in the room, nothing will be changed. Here and therapy is the same story. The therapist has the tools, time for you and a chance to help, and then your job. In response to the execution of tasks in the process of working through their feelings, facing their own internal conflicts, you're more likely to reach a tangible result.
From ready to open and show their feelings. each of us has weaknesses, traumatic experiences, deep experiences. And therapy is a process in which sooner or later will have to deal with. Often the process is painful and difficult. After working in trauma involves immersion into the past in a situation, faced with that, people have experienced pain and other strong feelings. The client in therapy have the right to go around such places, there is a rule "stop" and the opportunity to say: "I'm not ready to talk about it." Indeed, it is not always necessary to dive off the bat and digging up the most painful episodes of his life in the here and now. But, avoiding these experiences systematically in order not to hurt, over and over again, you lose the opportunity to receive a quality study that destroys you. And then therapy can become a vicious cycle. Each time pushing to the point of pain and preferring to ignore, you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to change their lives. The solution to this situation is to discuss with a therapist the impossibility of experience. To talk about what hinders to approach the immersion issue. And may be that, with the support of a specialist to "dive" into the injury will be possible.
With confidence. You have made the decision to go to therapy, selected a specialist based on some of your criteria, have certain expectations from therapy. Allow yourself to this experience, judging every word the therapist skeptical. You have a right to receive information on the qualifications of the specialist, ask them to present awards, ask about the experience of his work. Also may ask questions. In this way, and formed a trust in the relationship. Many customers ignore this stage, worrying about what spend paid time on unnecessary information. But it is a necessary stage in building a relationship with any person. The trust is formed not on an empty place. And the initial stage of gathering information about the opponent. You came to talk about personal, intimate, painful. You're not doing it with the first comer. Help yourself to make the therapist more understandable for myself, a figure, ask him questions. No need to discount this possibility. Yes, it's your time and you pay for it. So take care of yourself, making the space a safer therapy for yourself.
analysis. Before starting therapy a good idea to figure out what you want to achieve from the process. What results, changes, improvements. Write down your expectations and will definitely talk about it with a therapist. Feel free to voice what you want. This will allow the specialist to focus on "per request". You will be able to track whether changes in the process and which ones. To discuss is very important. So you will not have the feeling that you are doing something wrong. And will always be able to clarify whether we do something now that will lead me to the solution of the problem?
journal. Diary - very useful tool which can allow you to perform many useful tasks. Write a brief description of the session and your thoughts about it. Your feelings, experiences, homework assignments and their progress. My dreams in between sessions, the feelings and thoughts that come to you. The process of psychotherapy triggers a variety of mechanisms. And it does not end at the threshold of the room. Your diary is a faithful assistant and powerful tool for analysis. Re-reading the entry, you will be able to track the changes. How changing your thoughts and feelings. What goes into the background and ceases to matter to you, and that becomes relevant.
Psychotherapy is the path to change. And that let specialist your Proctor. It will go with you and suggest, to guide, to warn about the dangers. But you have to go yourself. The therapist will shoulder, but will not drag you on my back. Therapy your way. Your overcoming. A therapist is a guide and helper.
I Hope the article was useful to you.