In this article I would like to share with you a personal experience of communication with children. Consider a period from 1 to 3 years
What you need to understand first and foremost, a child this age is just learning to talk, walk, feel, the child forms the emotions and basic knowledge not only about the world but also of the company (society).Therefore, you need to understand when the baby starts to climb everywhere, all drag in the mouth, disassemble, break, he does it not to make you angry or to hurt someone (a child, by definition, cannot know that it is), and this is due to the fact that your child explores the world around him. Physical punishment during the period and cry for disobedience will not bring you the results that you expect.
you Need to remember that physical punishment and shouting, intimidation form the child's fear, not only to object but to for adults.
this begs the question of what to do and how to act?In my experience working with young children can confidently say that children begin to understand you as an adult only to adulthood, in order to help the child understand what you want from him, you need to speak his language.
for Example: "the Child does not want to listen to you and wants his requests fulfilled immediately" consider the dialogue, the psychologist/parent
Mother: I Have a restless girl of 3.5 years. Constantly whines and wants me to immediately do what she wants. I tell her, "Now mom will finish and we go for a walk or something.." but it doesn't help bothering me and whines.
the Psychologist:Many parents say that when they learned to use active listening and "I message", then a relationship work. What can I do? You be the nagging girl, and I was a mother.
Mother (played by a girl): Mommy, let's go outside!
Psychologist (plays the mother):- You really want to go outside?
Mother:Yeah, I really want to go that street s-s-s-s-s
the Psychologist: really, Really want!Even you want to cry to mommy faster come on.
the Psychologist:Mommy. of course, I'll go. We are now together, that'd be great, and then we go out on the street. Okay?
Mother: Good....But now I want to go. Don't want to finish
the Psychologist: You don't want to finish.
Mother: don't want to.
the Psychologist: And how can that be? I'll be sad if not completed yet.
(at this point it is necessary to say about themselves and their feelings, children know it intuitively)
I'll be very very sad, and you don't want me upset. Right?
You love me and I love you.
this example describes a non-Intrusive impact on the child. Namely, his emotions to his mother, all children at that age want mom and dad "happy and sad". After the job or business ,you need to praise the kid,thus we reinforce the positive incentive to work and not ruin his self-esteem.
In conclusion I want to note that in dealing with young children is not rare to go to the trick, to not pick up difficult words and most importantly be aware of the fact that children speak "another language" and such complicated words as "responsibility, order,mode, etc." is not clear to him, try to replace them with a more soft and simple words. Then you'll understand your child and you.