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you can See their strengths – that means to feel its power, to cease to fear and begin to move forward.

our culture tends to focus on shortcomings. We imbibe from childhood: "What understanding?", "You slowly think!", "I'm short", "No voice, nor hearing!", "You're lazy" and stuff like that. This is done, of course, in order to stimulate a process of education and self-education. And it helps to a certain extent.

But the abuse of a side effect – the formation of ideas about themselves as "not this", the habit to devalue yourself as a whole. In the end, people are well aware of their shortcomings (he said this repeatedly). And what he really is, what are his strengths, abilities, knows. the
And – not to notice their successes and not hearing when talking to him about it more. Accustomed to depreciation. Talk about the value itself, seem to him arrogance, conceit. Something not very decent.

How to believe in yourself, if you see only faults?

to Know the real itself: its characteristics, abilities and interests. It may well be that, having lived, say, 30 years, a man knows himself not very good. br>
In this regard, I like the Einstein quote: "...if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live whole life believing that it is stupid". If you don't succeed, maybe you are not doing their job?





Start to accept the support and listen to those who talk about your strengths, qualities and skills. When you say compliments, thank you, enjoy the success – perhaps telling the truth? br>
Yes, people with low self-esteem often think that when they say something is good, it is in fact true, and is pronounced in order to make nice. Now, sometimes people tell the truth.



Carefully, with analysis to treat those who highlights your weaknesses and mistakes. I wonder why they do? Especially if you adult of people.





© Julia Izofatova
#yuzofatova_psychologist


2018-11-26
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