"Love does not deserve love is simply grace. But love is not just mercy, it's magic. For the one who loves, love puts a spell on the whole world, envelops the world with additional values".

/Viktor Frankl/

I'm Sure that most girls and women dream to meet the man of her dreams, marry him and live in marriage happily ever after. But some, it turns out, and the other does not.

I don't know about yours, but my life was about this: "if you behave, I won't love you", "with your personality you no one will love", "if you don't change, you're marriage will not take". These words, in General, it is said, usually good reasons, distort our view of love relationship. And that's grow a girl with confidence that such as it is, nobody's going to love that love must be earned, and for that something to change in yourself, but it is not clear what. The years go by, the relationship is not working, although she tries very hard, adapting to each new partner. The causes of failure in personal life, she explains her "nehoroshaya", that's not trying hard enough or doing something wrong. This strategy leads to a dead end.

In fact, in order to be loved, not have specifically to do anything, just be yourself, to realize their uniqueness, to accept yourself with all the advantages and disadvantages. Truism, which, however, many forget that in order to please others, to have love, you first have to like yourself, love yourself. To be able to build a good relationship with a man, first of all, you need to build a good relationship with them. Of course, it's not as easy as it might seem at first sight, sometimes, to begin to love yourself, it takes more than one year of therapy. But for starters, you can try and itself.

to understand your uniqueness, try to do this exercise:

1. Take a sheet of paper and answer the following questions:

• what you value?
• what are you good at it?
• how would you describe yourself in one word?

2. Ask 5 people (or more) of their close friends to answer the following questions (also in writing):

• what differentiates you from others, what is your "highlight"?
• why do they talk to you?
• what is valuable for them to communicate with you?

to be Continued...

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