Not so much "bad advice", how much life observation of those manifestations of the customers who lead to difficulties in relationships for disappointment in the process, to the loss of the "working Alliance" and to the conclusion "I have a "bad" therapist."

- late for a meeting
Late, following self-reproach, remorse, suspicion: "the therapist I was offended", fantasy: "he now thinks I'm bad" questions: "was waiting for me? worried or not?" and so on - a good excuse not to meet with any difficult issue, to avoid discussing his inner world and go to the showdown.

- criticize foreign
Any symptoms of the therapist or the environment can become the object of criticism: why the therapist is not wearing the suit? why the costume is the wrong color? why he has a very short haircut or too long hair? why not in the office carafe of water? why is the door to Cabinet not painted? etc. you can Always find something that you do not like, besides, even if you liked it or were indifferent, now it can cause great irritation. Especially safe move is to criticize what you cannot change: for example, height or hair color, or tone of voice - if your goal is to find "vulnerabilities" in your therapist and settle him with a feeling of powerlessness - criticism is the easiest and shortest way.

- break the boundaries
Write texts or emails in between meetings - the therapist has left them without an answer, already showed his disrespectful, indifference, insensitivity, etc. are Asking to increase the time of the meeting or stay after the meeting - the failure of the therapist another opportunity to blame him for the fact that you are not interested in him.

- don't let time to your response
Tell in detail the long history of life, telling one, move on to another sharply protest if the therapist interrupts you and starts speaking his mind, accusing him of the inability to listen, try to fill the entire meeting time. It will create a huge field for the imagination about what the therapist thinks about you and your history, you are able to attribute to him any reaction and to summon up any feelings of shame, humiliation, despair, etc.

- compare with other psychotherapists
One of the proven ways to avoid contact and meetings with another person, another identity, another world is to make it "one of..." At the same time comparison - frequent manipulation of those customers who are unable to say directly about their needs instead of saying "I want...", you can go "a long and roundabout way": "But another therapist was..."

In conclusion, if you have a desire to vospolzovatsya suggested ways - it means that your relationship with your therapist is the moment when you were distracted from their inner world when you somehow become a very important relationship with the therapist or when you have a resistance to the further development of relations. br>the desire "to do his therapist bad" carries the tune of "I have nothing and nobody to help." Even if you ever wanted change in your life, there is always resistance, "second hand", our inner part, which is convenient to leave everything as is, which prevents the changes, which come into conflict with the desire to change. Resistance is not a wall you want to destroy, it is the voice that should be heard. Perhaps your relationship with your therapist remind you relationship with yourself or with someone from the inner circle, then using the above methods you repeat your feelings in this relationship and try to cause another appropriate response.

Postskriputm. The enumerated list does not exhaust all the options, it is rather an outline on the topic - so I will be glad to comments, clarifications, dopolneniem.

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