As expected, let's start with the terminology to accurately determine the subject matter.

#Irritability (according to the encyclopedia of psychology) – the condition of the subject, characterized by irritability, instability, easily turning into anger, anger, frustration.

Here we see our second helper - anger. The state of anger of the definitions of mass, is most commonly used understanding of Brockhaus - negative affect directed against experienced injustice and is accompanied by the desire to eliminate it. I also like philosophical more concise, but beating a transient state of great indignation.

Now we can understand the relationship and hierarchy of States. Irritability precedes the anger. Anger is an extreme catharsis and expression of irritability. Of course, not every anger is preceded by irritability, and there are cases of spontaneous, sudden anger. Most often it is the state of passion in the topic they are not interested in us.

Keywords: injustice and outrage. Injustice must be perceived by the subject as extreme, severe, to outrage even at the level of thought generation led to real verbal/non-verbally physical/not physical actions.

Popular psychology offers methods of dealing with anger as the development of self-control (so this is what's missing! (sarcasm)), periodic discharge at sites where expression of anger is normal (martial arts, video games, beating pillows, identifiable with the object/subject to irritation), recreation, but most often it is recommended that the switch or the diversion of the consciousness from a conflict situation (breathing exercises, in his mind, literally, care any other ritual act that a person must learn to do in the moments when he feels that anger is coming).

a More "Mature" are specific ways that help to develop #the objectivity of perception #self-control, adequate assessment of events. One of the main such method is cognitive restructuring. Roughly speaking, this is the teaching of empathy, look at a conflict situation from the position of the irritating person (if any), identify themselves with him. In other words, developing the ability to think abstractly, not from his personality. Sometimes what is lacking is a simple idea that perhaps the opponent had a motive to do something special that touches You. Pair direct and clarifying questions to the outpouring of anger and ... is that the causes of the latter and no.

However, this method is a bit ... obvious! IMHO, everyone should be reasonable, objective and empathic towards another. It's like that isteroid begin to describe a person's balanced, thus showing, what are the disadvantages of hysteria. However, if the man himself has not reached cognitive restructuring, it is better to teach it that meter, and not all sorts of ways to contain or switching of anger.

I could not help going back to my classification of methods of psychotherapy from the post about the peculiarities of psychoanalysis (https://web.facebook.com/skurtul/posts/565907610527889). Popular psychology does not solve the main CAUSES of irritability. After all, someone more irritable, but someone can say is not irritable. The irritability is based.

Cognitive-behavioral psychotherapy specifically helps to change thinking and behavior to avoid anger. But it also avoids deep analysis of the Genesis of irritability. And if that pathology formed the personality in childhood, the conflict remains unresolved in the unconscious, worked out, and he sealed one of the explicit reduces the quality of life, remedies, symptoms, however, not the only one.

Psychoanalysis, as always, is guided by the main principle of the study. Any symptom should be explored. Have irritability, there are specific reasons that are the most difficult, but most effective. In search of the root revealed whole layers of events and mental insights of life that have an impact on I in the present, and of which the analysand may not be aware of. Very much to a certain depth, is only a symptom, a consequence of the traumatic experience. If you find the time and energy, it is possible to get to the root causes, to live and insight to rethink life, as a result, their unconscious behavior.

Came up with the idea how to Express the situation with the treatment of irritability in different modalities.

1. Irritable person comes to the psychologist-consultant. Teach him breathing techniques, begin to count when the intensity of the feelings, to translate the look up during the outpouring of anger, in the long term, I advise you to do sports more often to relax, I supervise a client state.

2. Irritable person comes to a psychologist specialist in cognitive-behavioral modality. Specific examples understand the situation of angry reactions and rekonstruiruet, modeled in new ways, points to an error in thinking and negative aspects of impulsivity.

3. Irritable man comes to the psychoanalyst and his ... anything here not teach. "Let's talk about it. Tell me more about the States of anger and irritability". We are not gurus, we do not know what the reason, so we need an array of knowledge about analizate.

Despite the fact that we can identify General personality of people who often experience anger, such as:
- self-centeredness - inability to understand that their desires are not necessarily needs to be satisfied just because they want it);
- low self esteem - uncertainty prevents an objective assessment of the actions of others, people perceived the strikers more often than are not in fact;
- the empathy deficit - everything is simple, do not understand the contentious action of another, take as an attack to his side, while the other one acted logically;
- high impulsivity - too-hasty judgment.

All of this is psychoanalysis query and hooks for the start of the study, as each story is unique and universal way to work without immersion. Use the exact wording of Anna Inozemtseva:

"the Method of education of children influences their manner to control the anger as adults. It is very important from an early age to teach children to Express their emotions, so they learn to deal with them as best as possible. In addition, teach children not to react aggressively to certain situations, prevent the development of the child's “syndrome of the Emperor”. Matters and family environment: it was noted that people who are worse restrain anger, come from dysfunctional families in which there is emotional closeness."

do Not have to work with the cause, but, in my opinion, this is the, so to speak, environmentally friendly method that will provide the best beneficial effect on the patient's quality of life in General. Again, I repeat: nobody knows a person better than himself. Therefore, the study is carried out together: the patient, the medium of the source material, the researcher synthesizing and analyzing, well, the subject of the final metamorphosis, and the analyst as a diagnostic tool, the compass, the researcher analyzes and also synthesizing, and, of course, a Mirror so necessary for reflection, self-understanding, the specificity of self-concept analysant.

In the end, remember the most important thing - anger is not constructive and is very rarely useful, often the opposite. In a fit of passion you can break something after, even when glued, more will never sound as before. br>