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Feelings are born in the body and always have a bodily basis. So the therapist so persistently will ask you: "How do you feel it in your body?" Listen, just find.
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Feelings do not last forever and tend to take place to an end. Another important observation from the senses don't die: painful, but not fatal.
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however, one of The most frequent queries in therapy: "I Want not to feel." What not to feel, depends on the person and situation. Someone doesn't like pain, someone unable to cope with the grief, and someone tries to turn off the anger.
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the Bad news is that the feelings are all powered from one switch and off one by one. So, if you want to get rid of anger, for example, will have to give up joy and pleasure. And it significantly reduces quality of life. Output is to survive to the objectionable sense until, until it transformered into something else. Remember that feelings are?
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We refuse to worry, we block this process for different reasons. Sometimes feelings are so strong that we are afraid to meet them. Sometimes a situation leaves us time to grieve, and need to act, to escape, to change things, sacrificing the sensitivity. It happens that the feelings stop interactome: "stop complaining, you wimp," says my mother's voice inside and all the tears ended, the pain remained.

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to Stop feeling the easiest way physically to hold your breath to stop the movement, squeeze the muscles.br>🔷
Example, from a severe heart pain I want to gather into a ball, we strain the chest muscles, the shoulders collect, shorlines. If this posture becomes habitual for us, not to pass us problems with posture, shoulders and upper back.
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Recovery of bodily awareness, breath, movement, support of another person, contact with others able to survive what was stopped. Moreover, the contact and support of another play a decisive role in all this. Those who once tried to cry to someone, know that this is not the same as crying alone.
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the First step in restoring the ability to feel what was suppressed, often acting out the feelings. People crying, screaming, loud breathing and strange moves. This is what is called "catharsis" - brings relief and exhausting at the same time.
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But in fact it all does not end but only begins. Further it is important to understand what is the need behind a particular feeling that has been violated, how can it satisfy now, as it is currently provide? Including bodily, as if in response to the found new method in the body is born only lethargy and apathy, it will never work.
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for Example, if the violation was the need for security, how can I keep myself safe now? If you need support, I get it now from the therapist or group?

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Next comes the stage of assimilation of the experience and integrating it into life. It's quite a lot of work finding a new meaning of what happened of events and experiences.

Even the strongest feelings can be overcome.

Bolgova Anna
2018-07-09
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