the Emotion of sadness occurs in humans in situations of significant dissatisfaction, serious failure in the present or memories of events of past years.
Sadness can be light or painted in dark colors.
Bright sadness evoke: viewing old photos; thoughts of a distant loved one; memories of pleasant and important events (travel, student years etc.)
the Sadness with dark colours may be inspired by the events of the past that are not accepted when people can't analyze a situation and to change the look of them.
Sadness could be tired, after staying at the peak of positive emotions.
it is Important to distinguish melancholy from sadness. Sadness is not associated with the traumatic event. Sadness is a reaction to the stressful situation. Sadness caused by loss, often accompanied by apathy and inaction.
One of the functions of emotions - motivating. A call to action has 2 choices: either a ‘moving From” or the ‘move To’.
Either we are out and repressed emotions (movement From), or live and find solutions to resolve situations which are associated with a specific emotion (motion To).
So the realization of sadness can become a source of motivation to change things for the better, to resolve the frustration; to change our attitude to the past (an active emotion).
If the child childhood close friends were forbidden to feel sad, then in adult life people suppresses and displaces the sadness. In situations of serious failures instead of analyzing and solving starts to get stuck on the negative, can fall into a state of melancholy, depression, feeling of boredom or emptiness (destructive emotions).
Examples of a ban on the sadness.
1. A small child fell, he's hurt, he cries.
Adults say:
“don't cry, boys don't cry”.
Or:
“don't cry! Tears wrinkles appear, you know you want to be a beautiful girl!»
there are No bad or good emotions. Emotions are necessary and important. Understanding yourself, your emotions is the key to successful management.
What to do when you are sad?
1. Write down your emotions in a diary of feelings. What situation (event) is associated with that emotion? What thought caused that emotion? What it feels like in the body (where the body responds to your emotion)?
Some people find it easier to track sensations in the body. You can paint yourself and paint this part of the body.
Useful to do what you love, creativity or cleaning the house.If the sadness connected with past events, analyze the situation. Make conclusions. Remember that the past cannot be changed, but you can change your attitude. Ask yourself: Why do I keep going over and over this situation (return to events)
Allow yourself to be alive and to live different emotions!
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