Summer vacation, I eat Breakfast in the restaurant at the hotel. Great weather, a terrace with tables hanging over the blue sea. The Bay is of such beauty that take your breath away. In a great mood, but was soon overshadowed by two scenes, one after another.
I often marvel at the metamorphosis taking place with my little clients when the session ends and they come out into the corridor. I just saw the joy in their eyes. They were open, creative, relaxed. Were such as should be children. But leaving the office behind the door waiting for their mom, they stare down, pull his shoulders, straining his back. Why the closest person becomes a constant source of discontent and criticism?
Why in our culture education is still criticized? Why is it that a good mother is one that endlessly makes comments? How often we hear words spoken with reproach, that the child misbehaves and the mother even comments will do!
Not arguing, comments must be done, otherwise the child will understand what is good and what is bad, but all should be the measure. Endless criticism leads to the fact that the child is discouraged. Since forming learned helplessness. If it is impossible without comments, then make them friendly tone. The word "comment" the same root with the word "notice", which means "to mark".
If we criticize, then your child needs to know and feel that you love him no matter what, and blamed for his own good to continue not doing something that is dangerous or prohibited.
note the question. Do you always scold the child because he is guilty? If there is no way that the reason is not in it, and in your bad mood? But the mood is spoiled, for example, at work?
If this happens, do not take the trouble to apologize to a son or daughter, try not to allow this to continue.
In fact, we educate children by example. Don't want swearing - do not swear yourself. Smoke - do not expect that the teenager will not smoke. Lie - do not expect that the child will tell the truth.
to understand what the other person is feeling, it is useful to put yourself in his place. Now imagine what your child, when he endlessly make comments, criticize and criticize. Would like to be in his place? You can call it a happy childhood?
Here and I about the same. So, let's help our children become happy. At least will reduce your pressure. Children are wise creatures, they learn quickly, having example before my eyes. It depends on us, what kind, good or bad.