in a couple after a long life together. And the theme
is not for all couples. And well, that is not all. But she
there is, and therefore has a right to be.
Imagine, people are together for many years. The children have grown. Parents
left alone. It would seem a Golden time. Live for yourself, pay
more attention to each other. What could be better than love-a friendship?
But something doesn't add up. Instead of rapprochement sense of remoteness,
even detachment. Home though done together, but either
on the machine, either because it's necessary, nothing else.
Strangely, the first man shows this very
the detachment. The woman, like a sensitive barometer, instantly catches
changes in the relationship to her, and lost. She doesn't understand that
happened. Everything seems to be no change on her part. And he was suddenly
less talkative, or Vice versa, says a lot and mostly negative.
he was more likely to leave home, started a new hobby, notes in the nature
wife's traits, which previously did not say or did not pay attention.
and a woman can suddenly change. Became more demanding, less
taking care. New Hobbies, meeting friends,
desire to have personal time and space.
the Desire for freedom from the hustle and bustle begins to appear brighter. But there are
habit. The years, the habit of household chores,
friends, trips to visit relatives, the holidays
the rules, addition and consumption of the family budget
even with the children – all "ustakanilos". Nothing new
family life
Grumbling to be the background of existence of two people. What
going on? Another crisis of family life?
Try to understand each other. Don't be surprised if one of the two
say: "let's live separately." Or even more abruptly: "Come on
get a divorce." Shock. A shock to everyone. First thought – partner, someone
appeared. It happens sometimes. But let's not talk today about the change.
the Reasons for wanting to leave in Mature age enough.
have You ever wondered about the phenomenon of fatigue? People
tired of each other. Left alone, you can start a new compatible
ing life and the new life does not work. The old life is no
satisfied. And more often visited by the idea – it is necessary to leave.
Why do people get tired from each other, having lived for many years? But the reason is always
there. Are relationships in which one spouse dominates, and
the second is humble. Here is the sacrificial behavior of one in favor of
the other. "Victim" is, incidentally, also has some benefit from it.
Another option – both want to be boss. There's generally a cut
the stone. Quarrel, as a constant companion.
But all relationships have a certain period of time. There comes a time when
resentment, anger, sense of humiliation, accumulated over many years of collaboration
life becomes critical. And even if these grievances do
manifest, they will still sprout the tree of separation. The only question is
whether the separation is forever or temporary?
In the world there are no people who would not see flaws in a partner. But!
There are certain zones of tolerance, and they are all different. With something that we just
get along, tolerate or accept, but something builds up and becomes
critical mass. That's when you start thinking about termination
relationship.
don't hold each other, this test is not given in vain. Try to be
the objective, don't blame your mate, and don't give up on
the opposite field. There will be new values and priorities.
life Changes, we change. And only time will tell was it worth it
go. Don't burn bridges.
Yes, relationships are difficult to stop, and often impossible. As
geographically separated? And the status of family man? And
the devastation of disappointment, fear of the future?
Assistance can be provided by loved ones. In any case, the breakup, let
even temporarily, is serious psychological trauma.
Therefore it is better to go to a psychologist. Only psychologist you can
again go your way for couples to see which periods of time
influenced changes in the relationship. What was shared and what has distanced you
from each other? You will find the reserves to restore intimacy, understanding,
support? And you will have a new chance of love, affection and mutual
respect.
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