Now quite practices and methods that promise almost instant results: various "hard" training such as the Lifespring program or the Spartan who for several days promise to completely change your attitude towards life, get rid of the "cockroaches" and so on.

There are various quick psychological or esoteric working methods hypnosis or theta-healing that promises in a few sessions to cure your symptom: to cure disease and so on. - that is to radically change your life here and now.

Long-term work with a psychologist/therapist creates a relationship of respect, trust and the fact that I listen and understand what I (and possibly you) missed in my childhood: when I returned from kindergarten and I wanted parental attention and warmth, and in response I just got his orders and teachings, because parents are tired after work and they wanted to wash/to lay me out and do their chores - they had me (they have their own worries).

in addition, all rapid methods, including various esoteric practices involve communication from the bottom up: I came to guru/healer/wizard and he held with some manipulation and I got the result - that is kind of like nothing depends on me: Yes, I can be ill during the session, but the responsibility on that person I came.

During long-term psychotherapy, communication also begins with the position from the bottom up, that is a psychologist/therapist acts as a parent figure, but in the process of happening (and this is one of the tasks of the therapist) changing attitudes to dialogue on an equal footing.

this is dialogue on an equal footing allows me to see my therapist the same person as I am, Yes, it helps to see something in me that I can't see, but he's like me - and our work - our joint work and I am responsible for my part of the work: to do the job, to observe changes, and so on - and the therapist is responsible for his part: to share knowledge, experience, practices, including being nice to me - what I wrote above.

Yes, you say, the same attention and look the part on an equal footing I can get in life with a close friend or a friend, and I need to pay money for it, right?

However, when we do not pay money, often, for some reason, it turns out that instead of attentive listening - we get tips on how we live and experience pain this specific girlfriend or boyfriend - and immediately lost attentive listening (a! I understand/a) and the position is equal (you need to do so-and-so) - there position from top to bottom.

on the other hand, some people do not need psychotherapy if all of the current life you are, that's it and no need to delve into the past. In psychotherapy there is the concept: a good enough childhood - that is, everything was overall OK - and it makes no sense to change anything.

In the past it makes sense to go if in the current life, there are problems with the roots of childhood trauma and children's decisions about themselves and the world that we follow, until we can change them in therapy, for example, when you came out of kindergarten, and no one listened, and only ordered and commanded you, - then it can affect your whole life, for example, to choose partners and friends who will instead listen to you command and order you: "you do not understand: you need to do so-and-so.".

And what methods of work with them you use and what you see its value?

Tried to imagine long-term psychotherapy - with what results came out of it?

Eugene Korchmarek
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