the Child began to walk independently in the yard. He's turning 8 years old. It recently broke the Ten-year boy - he refused to be some kind of undead. My husband just had a fight, figuring out how we parents need in this situation to do. Husband thinks son should grow up man and learn a lesson from the situation. And I think we should intervene, just as it is... I have no idea.

Let's look at the situation abstractly. Without emotion.

If you imagine that what happened should be a lesson for him, how? Group can beat one? Not to play with the older boys? Something else? br>
it is Permissible in such a situation a seven year old child to get bruises? The fracture? br>
How much is an acceptable fee for learning a lesson? br>


These issues need to be discussed with your spouse before talking with your child, before taking any steps. In order to begin to act, you need a single line of behavior within the family: what You will say son ask him to do. And outside the family: will ye go to look for these violent desyatiletok and their parents or not. The unity of parents in a situation of danger for the child is also a lesson of unity, support and security.

If the lesson is important and necessary, and the fee for the lesson is quite adequate, to intervene is not necessary. Child will stuff their cones, extract their lessons and socialities in the yard. However, if the opponents are much older - a couple of years at this age there is a significant difference: it affects speech (much more deftly operates words), and motility (fights more coordinated ). In this case, the child may not have a chance against such opponents. Then it will be bitter, painful and sad. Forces to learn lessons will be bumps and bruises will be received in vain. Moreover, socialization may be disrupted by various anxieties and fears. Therefore, the intervention of the adult in such situations, it is necessary to preserve the integrity of the child's sense of security yard - a safe place with me nothing bad will happen, mom has everything under control.