to get help effectively and in a timely manner, it is better to know what to turn to. Normal specialist understands that the consumer is not obligated to understand, and if you are at - explain and redirect. But it is better to know in advance - at least to conserve their resources. br>
About the difference between specialists who for pills, and to whom in conversation - written enough. And consumer literacy in this is much higher than a few years ago. But there is another aspect - what is the state (and with what expectations) apply. When you will approach the consultation, when a long, regular individual work when group when training, etc. And here is much more ambiguity. br>
In this article I want to talk about one, but significant difference. It's the difference between psychological work and psychological crisis help. br>
thrives the idea that going to a psychologist when bad. This is partly true, to pay money to another to deal with them is not a good life. There are aesthetes, often psychologists, who undergo the therapy "workouts" because it's interesting, but not talk about them. So, go to a psychologist for help, when it's bad, but what kind is "bad"? You want to figure out what is wrong with your relationship, or you just got out of the emergency room, which took a beating? You have no relations with the finances (but you live once and the cost of the psychologist planned), or you just got fired, and are about to be evicted from the apartment? You have a personality disorder that you live for many years, and recommended therapy, or you have an acute psychotic attack?
in Other words, your problem is a recurring situation and condition, and your aim is better to understand yourself, to change your life? Or your problem is a crisis situation, and your goal - to mobilize, to get out of it? br>
the Answer to this question determines the choice - to whom and why you are going. To deal with yourself, to know yourself, change yourself - you call the vending psychologist/therapist in advance to stipulate with him a convenient appointment time, come to the reception, get acquainted, decide whether you want to continue. And continue. From several months to several years of regular meetings. Regular thoughts, feelings, resistances, attempts to look at what do not want to watch, memories, which it would not have been, but also happy moments of meeting with others and myself. All that is included in the concept of work. Needless to say, this job requires you resources? Needless to say that in a crisis situation - such resources you have and all your resources - you do not need to do this?
If an event happened that changed your life, if you are experiencing acute grief, the loss, or you are disoriented, but feel ready to reach out to people - you call the free helpline and ask: I feel bad, listen to me! Or tell me what to do and where to go in this situation. And if, in addition to the psychological need of legal, social, medical support - you try to provide with specialized professionals.
Or, even if you go to a psychologist for a fee - and he and you understand that you seek urgent crisis support. br>
Alas, there are times when a psychologist is perceived as analogous to an ambulance, followed by disappointment that "not helped". Understand why the psychologist was not ready to listen to you right now, when you feel bad, but offers to make an appointment. The situation suddenly reversed or even without warning, missed meetings because I was enrolled when HE left, and after 3 days HE returned, and meeting with a psychologist was not needed. Or - the investment of hope in psychotherapy with a lack of resources, when very bad, and the psychologist (out of incompetence or moral corruption, anything can happen) - "sold" it is therapy, not noticing that the request is not for this, not to mention with the client the scope of possible assistance. br>
of Course, if you already go to a psychologist - you can come to him in crisis situations, it is natural. But in the case of initial applications, it is important to understand that crisis assistance is a separate theoretical and practical field. Crisis assistance - is:

  • Assistance in finding resources, both internal and external, in some cases, includes direct advice what to do and where to go;
  • the Presence, complicity, support, psychological support, unconditional acceptance;
  • Help in passing the stages of grief or trauma, to prevent deconditioning response to the crisis (to help the person not to "lock" my feelings, to Express them).

  • do you Know about what psychological work involves other competencies, and demanding resources from you, too? br>
  • the Psychologist will not always be with you unconditionally supportive, if in his opinion it hurts your progress in therapy and the changes that you desire. He will try to provide you with the optimal balance of frustration and support, and to withstand the fact that not all meets expectations - is the work of the client in therapy that none of it will do.
  • Psychological help should not atirat your last resources - financial, physical, temporal. It can be sensitive for you to money, but it should be available to you. Psychological help does not solve the problem of survival, she aims to improve the quality of life, when basic resources of survival is already provided! br>
  • Work on yourself is a process, existing and evolving in time. If you're tuckered out and you feel better is a wonderful one-time effect, but hardly a good result of psychological work in General. br>
  • Turning to the psychologist specify whether he is ready to the mode "emergency psychological assistance". The first call privately practicing psychologist is typically the appointment, not first aid on the phone.

    There are psychological services that provide assistance to victims of emergencies and violence. As a rule, these services are free helpline numbers. The advantage of helplines is that they are used to work with a specific theme, can provide additional contacts, and in any case - will listen to you. In the future, when you have collected all the necessary information and received first aid in acute condition - you can do a search of the psychologist who will accompany you in the future accommodation crises.

    Julia Liepaia
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