Fear of public speaking is a problem faced by every speaker, regardless of the subject of the planned speech, the magnitude of the possible consequences of failure and even from his own level of training. It's an irrational fear, the roots of which lie deep in the subconscious and even, one might say, due to genetic memory.
the fact that in ancient times the collective to the individual was the guarantor of security. Man alone was not able to hunt large wild animals earning their living or protect themselves from predators or to continue to race. To survive, the individual had to conform to social norms, and to regulate behavior with respect to these norms, in the mind formed a conditioned reflex: the disapproval of society means an ambulance, but by no means easy death. Now, in the twenty-first century, of course, much has changed, and the person could survive and no band, but the brain is still unconsciously perceive the situation of public censure as a threat to life. Hence, in particular, and fear of public speaking.
Like any phobia, this fear is manifested by the following symptoms:
muscle tension, feeling cold and weakness in the limbs; the
trembling of the body and the voice;
palpitations, sensation of pressure in chest, shortness of breath;
sweating, dizziness, headache, nausea;
dry mouth, change the pitch and volume of the voice;
stupor or Vice versa fussiness;
forgetting the prepared text, inconsistency of speech.
in Addition to the genetic memory, fear of public speaking is also formed in the process of education. Accustomed from childhood to excessive prohibitions, intimidation, oppression, psychological and physical violence, people lose confidence. Especially dangerous from the point of view of the formation of the fear of public speaking, autocratic parents tend to blame the loud conversations on the street (learning to behave quietly and inconspicuously, the children of these parents become afraid to attract attention), and the parents are perfectionists, inspiring children that need always and everywhere to be the best, to make every possible (and sometimes impossible) effort to achieve public recognition. In adulthood, victims of such education are doomed to suffering: to be absolutely perfect is impossible, and fear of rejection formed and deeply rooted, so they are ashamed of themselves and tend to avoid external evaluations.
Another common cause of fear of public speaking is a bad experience. The ridicule of their peers, excessive strictness of teachers, lack of support from friends and family – all of these can cause severe trauma to the soul insecure, shy person for a long time covering his/her way to the oratory.
the Third important reason – physical and speech defects, especially logoneurosis. People with disabilities can quite comfortably feel in a circle of close friends, but the need to speak to an audience literally knock them out of the rut. They are afraid that the public will make fun of their peculiarities, and, unfortunately, often their fears are justified. Our society is valid at times intolerant of other people's defects, but that is no reason for despair – people with defects are everywhere, and to find a loyal audience is not as difficult as it seems.
in a word, causes fear of public speaking is complex and diverse, but hurry please: make friends with your fear it is possible! Yes, it is to make friends, not to fight, in fact, fear is a useful emotion – it not only protects us from the dangers, if not always real, but is the perfect token of our true values and goals. Please note: we always fear those situations where our oratorical skill depends on professional success, personal gain, or the ability to avoid major trouble. Anxiety for the result – the flip side of the significance of the case, and if you remember this, it's easy to take that feeling to the allies.
Here's how you can do this:
1. Prepare well. Collect information, scan the material and learn it well. Consider the text clear and logical plan of presentation, prepare answers to possible questions and objections of the audience, rehearse the speech in front of a mirror and/or with loved ones. Well, if someone You trust will appreciate Your speech and point out mistakes so You can advance to get rid of them. By itself, this work will reduce the anxiety due to the fact that whatever the outcome You will have a real reason to say to yourself: "I made(and) all that I could(La)". At the same time high-quality training significantly increases the chances of success.
2. Do not try to grasp the immensity. The fear to miss something important often forces the speaker to try to cram too much material into your speech, but most often this oversaturation only harm. The average person is able to hold the attention on one thing only 15-20 minutes at a time, and during this period it is able to simultaneously perceive only 5-9 objects (facts, ideas, pieces of information etc.). If the performance lasts longer or too saturated, at some point the audience's attention inevitably dispersed and the purpose for which, in fact, the whole speech and pronounced (learning, persuasion, motivation, etc.) comes at the expense of much more effort and with far less result.
3. Improve your appearance and diction. On the one hand, literate presentation of the material will improve its perception by the audience, on the other hand will give You additional confidence that Your message will be graciously accepted and understood, and You as a person will not be embarrassed by their listeners. It is important not to overdo it: too much attention to that AS You say, can distract You from WHAT You want to say, and the desire to "please" the audience can make You fussy and rigid. The more natural You stay, the better for performance.
4. Analyze the audience. Rate the number of people, their age, gender, social status, interests, goals, attitude statements, the possible nature of the interaction with the speaker, etc. Work through these nuances, and Your confidence on stage will significantly increase, because you will know in advance with whom and how You have to communicate.
5. In advance give yourself the right to fail. Bad performances are even professionals of high class is absolutely fine. Similarly, normal and that the attitude of the audience to You is always ambiguous. In the hall there are always critics and the audience. Focus your attention on the latter. Catch every approving nod, every smile or an enthusiastic shout, and the sneers and hostile looks disregard. Remember: criticism is not always objective. Your opponent can be just in a bad mood or he does not understand the subject of your speech. At the same time, listeners often their comments and questions to throw You an interesting idea or piece of advice. Use it to your advantage – let experience be Your caring mentor, the same as You become to your audience.
6. Get rid of limiting beliefs. Track times when disturbing thoughts arise in Your head, and methodically refute them over and over again. Discuss with him until then, until a new, positive thoughts will take root in You as firmly as the ones we have now. Do not limit yourself to simple repetition of affirmations – this gives only a temporary effect. Look for confirmation in your experience and that of their environment, study examples of successful speakers practice in everyday life (family, friends). Remember: Your thinking in Your hands!
Examples of limiting beliefs and help:
- Public speeches are always a stressful event.
+ Public speaking is not only useful but also fun.
- I need to be perfect speakers to please all listeners.
+ Everyone is different, and in any case, each will respond to my presentation in its own way, and each of these reactions is a valuable experience for me. br>
- If a statement fails, it will be a disaster.
+ Even if during the performance something unexpected, I can always turn the situation to your advantage by using humor. br>
Audience is also critical to me as I to him.
+ I'm on their side, and this is already half of success.
7. Be yourself! Learn from others but don't copy them. Create your own unique style, their role, highlighting Your strengths as a person and a professional. Let Your character play for You. Behave in front of an audience as if socialized with friends: motion, joking, sharing personal stories as illustrations of their ideas, you can even directly admit to his excitement. The sincerity and vulnerability is not only quite normal but also a matter of respect. People tend to trust those who trust them, and if You can be sure that before You a loyal audience, the audience will feel it and, in turn, will be opened to You.
Here are a few techniques to deal with anxiety:
series of deep breaths;
a few SIPS of cold water;
triggered by yawning;
simultaneous tension and relaxation of all the muscles;
shaking limbs to stop shaking.
the transfer of body weight from heel to toe and back;
fast pitch, gymnastics;
to select the most convenient posture;
movements of the jaw, massage of the cheeks;
the humming a favourite tune;
invitation loved ones as listeners.
Also, You can always contact me for advice. I'd be happy to help You to make friends with their fear and make public speaking will bring You the maximum benefit and enjoyment.