for anybody not a secret that our problems in life come from our perception of certain situations. And our perception is formed, in turn, those beliefs that sit in our heads. Consider the ones that have been formed under the influence of fairy tales in childhood. Write formed not to write imposed. Today talked with a participant forum what literary works is to educate children....We started with the fact that Romeo and Juliet obviously not received in childhood as installations, once believed that "Emotion is the core value of life!", and not life itself.
in addition, it is not necessary to raise children in a fairy tale "By magic!", and some are beginning to take seriously that, "In life everything should happen easily and according to my desire!". Meanwhile, the purpose of the author of the tale was irony of fate.
But in the tale of "the frog Princess" is quite the right message sewn, but not all notice it. Meanwhile, it was a turning point in the plot and in the development of marriage – it is the most that neither is fundamental! Each of the second pair, seeking advice on matters of relationships, I have to quote again and again (buy a book and I'll just give the sessions). Remember, when the Princess at the feast his father Ivan was thrown from the sleeves, not the bones, and swans? So while it was annealed before the future father-in-law – Ivan ran home and quietly burned her frog skin. And what happened because of his impatience? Tsarevna Swan flew out the window, and he was looking for her in the wide world until I found and have not recovered from the Koshcheev. Morality? Have patience and appreciate what just happened given initially (this also fits and "hen-Ryaba").
a Lot more stories are taught as the need (or not need) to build a family life. "Goldfish" about the henpecked husband, for example, teaches that "podkabluchnik" is fraught not only for her husband, but rather for the family as a whole.
Although in some cases (again, "the frog Princess") the wisdom of the wife could be estimated and above.
the Legendary "Crane and Heron" only show typical errors (the so-called "swing") in the relationship between men and women when one or the other are moving towards each other, but in different phases.
More sensible in this case the tale "the Fox and the Crane". At least it teaches the basics of relations between people: everyone is different, and you need to learn to accept people such what they are and need to be treated not the way you want them to treat you, as well as the man he wants to be treated. In General, where this phrase came from, from what tales I don't know, help me, dear readers, in the comments write if you know "Treat others as you want them to treat you!". Here every second "Rescue" of the codependent pair in the consultation is and lives and constantly disappointed, as the answer doesn't get what waiting. "I told him with all the love!" - exclaims the wife, cheating husband, or a husband suffering from chemical dependence, "And is he?!". "And he - I respond to it, thought that it should be! Because growing up on the other fairy tale and to call him Emelya".
of Course, the obedience of children, especially in childhood, saves a lot of time and sometimes parents need to listen. It proves such tales as "the Wolf and the seven little kids", "Geese-swans", "Sister Alyonushka and brother Ivanushka". But at a certain age children become smarter than parents and should be quite able to trust his experience ("Daughter of the seven years"). A tale about the Young sometimes appear before me in the form of couples where the wife is still taking care of her husband, as once younger brother Ivan, even if she was the youngest in the family, a brother elder, but acted like the youngest.
In the fairy tale "the Princess Nesmeyana" refers to the fact that it is not always important that the husband earned all the money in the world, much more sometimes valued his ability to create a favorable emotional climate in the family! And the money and the Pope-king to take. br>
P. S. to read the Article with a share of criticism and humour, adjusted on each specific family.
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