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“What kind of people we like” - a seemingly obvious question. But no. If you walk up to him carefully, you can realize that the answer to this question defines us and our lives in a significant way.  So, understanding the answer to this question determines:

family relations (after all, people are trying to find a partner for a relationship that is pleasing from the number of candidates)  

- the employment relationship (the employment process starts with what we want we liked the seeker) 

- policy (candidate of the efforts of publicists and image-makers doing their best to appeal to the electorate)

- retail sales (percentage of sales due to the seller's service, by personally filed of advertising in modern marketing is more due to the reviews of other buyers staunchly exceeds the amount of purchases that are focused on the technical characteristics of the product)  



So try to ask the question “what kind of people I like” yourself (itself) yourself or someone from your entourage. What you may think or hear?

I like:

smart

- relaxed

- kind -

- serial

- motivated

- exciting

- serious

responsive

a List is more than variable – there can be many positions. But! Is it true? Do we really care for certain traits in other people?

With a single point of view, we like not people's characters around, and how people implement around our needs.

Sounds selfish. And it's really about selfishness. About the natural selfishness.  But that is egoism (not to be confused with egocentrism with the principle of “I”) makes us successful and happy.

But what we it is important to know?

A) we often label “the man I love”  not because we want to trust them, but because something in them touches us. That is, we often create relationships on the machine, not understanding the value that pursued.

B) we often do not understand whether to continue with us. We doubt, trying to think, to weigh the pros and cons, but do not monitor the real needs that we cling to the person.

C) we do not know HOW to keep a relationship afloat, or to develop relationships. Because for that to happen, it is important to understand what needs we (both partners) unconsciously trying to implement at the expense of each other.   

And here it is useful to create a list of questions that would allow you to understand what needs you are trying to implement at the expense of the people around him:



Try to choose from the environment of the person who you like and who you like. And try to ask yourself the following set of questions in relation to both the chosen “subjects”:   

How I like to open up to the person, something to tell him (her) about yourself? 

as far As I'm comfortable asking for help and support from this man?

How I feel admiration for me from this man?

How I like it and it turns to command (control, dominate) this person?

How easy is it for me to ask this man about the praise and compliments?

How I like to be with this person, to realize that we're a couple?

How easy this person understands me?  

With high probability you will get a clear discrepancy in the ability of these people to implement your needs. That is:

We surround ourselves with people who can participate in the realization of our desires …

Well, finally, a rather provocative question: “what kind of people appeal to you personally?»

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2019-06-13
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