the greatest happiness for the mother – to see their children happy. This was her doing.
the mother to the baby – the whole world. They are connected into a single unit with the prenatal period. They are closely spaced all the early years of development of the individual child. The child reads on her face and her emotions, her mood, her condition, her pain, sadness or joy. If mother not up to him, he feels rejected, but again and again looking in his eyes, the slightest chance on love.
“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice», — said Peggy O’Mara, author, international celebrity as publisher and editor of "Mothering" (“Motherhood”), the mother of four children. And that's a fact.
the Words and phrases that we say out loud, as well as accompanying their tone, mannerisms and actions — have a direct impact on our children. All we say to their children, it remains deep within the consciousness; in the place where we keep our sense of dignity, a sense of being, self-love, our fears and doubts.
Every loving parent thinks their child is unique, putting in a word all the beauty and power that can give to a baby.
it is Important not to elevate the child to the heavens, and to keep his head realistic words as kindness, frankness, sincerity, honesty, love, trust, life.
it is Important from early childhood to talk with your child about feelings. For example:
- I like to talk to you.
- I love you. Because you are.
- When you're happy, I'm happy for you.
- I trust you.
- How do you want to do in this situation.
- What do you want?
- If you need help, I'll help you.
- If something's bothering you , let's talk about it.
- If you're sad, I'll stay with you.
- If you're angry, it's okay, I'll help you, calm down.
It's not a lot of examples that give support to the child, they are like the Foundation in a situation when scared or when is unknown.
Our parents give us incredible power forward. Only if they are in contact with us, we are in contact with them in our soul.
There are some of us who have not received love, support, sense of family and support. Increases syndrome nedolyublennosti. Manifests as negativity, outbursts, aggression, opposition for adults people, protest behavior, malice, ostentation, etc. Here we will see tangled feeling “ I feel bad” with “ I'm bad" of the child can punish himself, his behavior is to walk on the edge, to tempt fate.
the Syndrome nedolyublennosti can be expressed in another way: the child is closed not to contact, too shy, anxious and fearful, at any time able to cry.
In adulthood, when we are working in therapy with the mother, the task – to take the Mother, take the Life she gave us, take the Price that it cost for her to take as much as she Gave and accept that this is enough for us.