Errors of parents in the upbringing of children. You need to stop doing right now.
Studies have determined the mistakes of parents in the upbringing of children. While the methods of education differ among cultures and from one family to another – there are some methods of education that are clearly outdated. Researchers, psychologists and experts in child development believe that some of them impractical and even dangerous. Below are 4 such practices.
1. Apriority sleep

In recent years there is a tendency, when parents minimize the importance of sleep. For normal development the child needs to get enough rest. The tightening of the regime in the form of restrictions in this plan not an indicator of sustainability. Insufficient sleep negatively affects the behavior; it also disrupts mental function and is correlated with weight gain over time. Recommended minimum of eight and a half hours for the grown organism, and from 11 to 12 hours for children under the age of (5 to 12 years). In real terms this means that in 15 years child that needs to Wake up by 7 am, has to be in bed no later than 10:30 PM and 10 years to 20:00 in order to be well rested by morning.

What: consider the mode of the day with your child. Plan periods of activity and rest, include extracurricular activities, lessons, chores. If you see that at the moment of commitment your child cut healthy sleep, you must help him to make the hard choices to reduce activity to win some time for relaxation.

2. Eating out

Often has a negative impact on family cohesion, the quality of food and maintaining a healthy weight. In restaurants, especially fast food establishments, there are often distractions that impede communication and other possibilities of building relationships. And if the word "food" is rightly defined as a nutrient that is absorbed for maintenance of life and growth, some items in the kids menu in restaurants barely meet this criterion. Studies tell us that compared with meals prepared in restaurants, the nutritional value of food cooked at home, above.

fix: a prepared dinner will prevent the workaround is to go to a random diner or fast food before heading home. All you need is two four-hour block on the weekend to make a billet or to fully cook four or five dishes for a week. Make a meal plan, make sure that the products you need in stock, and leave time in the calendar to the holidays. Be sure to stick to the regime every week and refrigerate or freeze the workpiece to be fresh.

3. Homework

unlike other practices where you can blame the parents, moms and dads, making the lessons their children are often convinced that support them. And will be wrong. Thus you deprive children an invaluable learning experience and opportunities for personal development. In addition, the difference in the quality of work of the pupil at home and at school did not escape the eyes of teachers. That's why it's time to put an end to parental intervention in the school. It not only sends children the message that for adults not enough faith in their ability to achieve. But and laziness, often prompting children to shirk their academic responsibilities.

What: take time to have children before performing difficult tasks, explain, prepare. And then give the ability to cope with the lesson on their own. If you want to test a son or daughter, use the technique of the survey. This will allow you to activate your thought s about the work he has done, instead of giving him specific directives for correction. In cases where the job really exceeds the ability of your offspring, don't do it for him. Instead, discuss the situation with the teacher and find out the reason for this discrepancy.

4. Spanking

Most punish, or approve of spanking, but the purported benefits not supported by research. This method of education gives only short-term results. While the detrimental disadvantage is significant. Those of us who study global and domestic data on physical punishment, you can come to one conclusion: it's bad for children. Of course, children need discipline, but not-beating parent should not be a weakling and someone who doesn't appreciate obedience or structure. "Non-punishing" does not equate to "antidisciplinary". It's just the position that says that physical pain to children is an acceptable strategy for behavior modification. Children who are beaten, often transgress the law and are more prone to depression. They are also likely to “break away” from their parents and will be more likely to normalize violence as a solution to the problem.

Fix: Start with expectations and explain your thinking. Make sure that your children understand the actions that you consider acceptable and those who think it is wrong. Then create a plan of discipline, which determines a progressive, non-physical implications for the various types of improper behavior. However, influence is not enough; make connection with your kids. This is the key to help them make the right choice. A strong bond between parents and children lead to the fact that your children will be more interested in your opinion and will take your valuables. Finally, think about how to reduce stress and anxiety when you are frustrated or angry with children. Yoga and meditation are excellent ways to increase self-awareness and self-control.

Bobkova Anna
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