Dmitry Yushchenko: On. There is such a thing, therefore, was so great.  psychologist, behavioral psychologist, a behaviorist name him Skinner. And he was animals that one cell when you press the feed spilled. In another cage, then food is not sleep in the third it was random. So what's interesting, the animal that received food every time it calmed down and understood that to eat is always possible. The animal, which, where food is not spill it.

Sergei Lepekhin.: Calmed down.

Dmitry Yushchenko: It is scored on this lever. 

Sergei Lepekhin.: Not works fine 

Dmitry Yushchenko: Not work began to find other ways. That way good thing: began to look for other ways. Self-esteem has increased, I believe I. 

Sergei Lepekhin.: haha. 

Dmitry Yushchenko: And here is where it randomly happened animal. Almost stuck to the handle and knocked, and knocked some time after work. 

Sergei Lepekhin.: Worked. 

Dmitry Yushchenko: Here my clients often say: ‘Well, yeah you bastard, you bastard”. And then suddenly so urgent session, Express session. 
— “You know I everyone's him to leave, but it yesterday I gave the flowers”. “It yesterday I gave flowers and he was so kind” 
— «And how your night went?» 
— “Night has nothing was he to the boys escaped, but yesterday, he have had.» 
— “But he with flowers come from?» 
— “Well, I birthday was” 
— « he gave you?» 
— “Yes, anything three daisies”.

Well, there I don't remember what. Here. «But after I want to with going to give him up, and people can be normal”. &Nbsp;there are people sometimes, you know, temporary enlightenment accidental nor with the associated. They start to considered proof that the person is good and may vary. Moreover, there is dancing. These with the lever. «And now, I must him three days not called so it to me come”. The man stops three days to call. And on the fourth is sitting at the door, waiting. And maybe that will change. 

Sergei Lepekhin.: Damn, typical swing, right here is such a swing.

Dmitry Yushchenko: Yes. Typical swing is called. Effect "variable or temporary approval". 

Sergei Lepekhin.: In the truck is called closer on. 

Dmitry Yushchenko: Closer. 

Sergei Lepekhin.: That's different. 

Dmitry Yushchenko: It's called Closer. It's called schizophrenogenic swing. 

Sergei Lepekhin.: Yes, there is. 

Dmitry Yushchenko:  behavioral psychology this is called the syndrome AC approval. 

Sergei Lepekhin.: As you call. Emotional history.

Dmitry Yushchenko: Because you know, there's this thing called cognitive dissonance. The man felt random  in this moment is all that it was boiling, and it just focused, Ah it may be others, my friends. Here you just have to admit. You can simply become a victim of the syndrome of alternating approval and these dances around the arm. 

Sergei Lepekhin.: history either accept what is or has already taken a decision, and-and-and change yourself or the relationship is no longer needed. 

Dmitry Yushchenko: Yes. And I think beyond the next thing to have high self esteem and accept that you have the right choice. Any loss of relationships. Not is for you infinitely irrevocable. Perhaps this is the beginning of your new life. Yeah. It is not need to be afraid to part with the habits. You need to have high self-esteem and understand that parting with one habit, you will find a bunch of new useful. 

Sergei Lepekhin.: let's add another example. Sometimes people do such interesting moves, for example. Had my friend who moved in another town and thought that everything there will be completely different life. Left in this town, and the other life is somehow not have become. A few months later after all the money ran out, all the reserves are gone. This friend decided to come back. The thing that a loved one does not leave. And changing the environment, and the man inside is not will change. &Nbsp;if there for a reason to close the current relationship, then there is an assumption that You can drag and drop the old in a new relationship. Moreover. A new partner can be absolutely so just like the old. Because for some reason. 

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