trauma is not an event in human life, which arouses strong feelings, and further promotes the formation of stable pathological changes in psychic life. Mental injury is a consequence of the accumulation of a certain external event of excessive inappropriate affect, and inability of the psyche to cope with the integration of such amount of energy and excitement, which leads to disorganization and disintegration of the psychic apparatus and the destruction of the mental functions.

Traumatic experiences because of their pain and intensity is often beyond human capabilities in processing this experience. The essence of mental processing is that it is necessary to ascribe meaning and significance of what is happening. When a traumatic event overwhelms the child's psyche, the child because of immaturity, is not able to cope with overflowing content, the result of trauma is outside the system of meanings and symbols.

indicator of the trauma acts obsessive repetition and its "allies": anxiety, feeling of helplessness, of abandonment, of niekompetencji or worthlessness testify that the person suffering from traumatic experience. Obsessive repetition is the human desire to re-experience unpleasant and painful situation, while not being aware of their involvement in the appearance of these unpleasant symptoms, people may not understand the connection between symptoms of obsessive repetition and situations that caused them in the past. The individual suffering from obsessive repetition, is inclined to attribute unpleasant incidents, coming suddenly, unexpectedly and in the absence of connection with the person and/or its General behavior, bad luck, destiny, fate. Obsessive repetition is a return to an adult from the past of the subject, which "traumatized" the psyche and which remains the symbolic and emotional attachment. The human "I" can't process filling his affect, which in turn distorts the perception of reality, the adequacy of contact with her. The information coming from the outside, is superimposed on a traumatic experience, informs the feelings and sensations that is identical to this experience. People who have experienced past pain and suffering, but not able to recall at present what happened, he uses obsessive repetition as a way of reaction, binding, bringing relief. Through repetition a person tries to overcome the situation of collapse and despair, the behavior is compulsive and stereotyped, there is no opportunity to stop and look around. An obsessive repetition of dysfunctional, since it does not allow a person to learn from experience, and one difficult to eradicate, through repetition, to make sense of, to establish a reliable connection with another person. Adult people in history which was "bad" parents retain a symbolic and emotional attachment, recreating this type of relationship with new people, giving them traits of "bad parents". The obsessive repetition of enable for adults to build around the world, according to emotional sensations identical to that in which they grew up.

Isolation, running in a circle, stepping on the same rake are some of the epithets of the manifestation of obsessive repetition. Experience is not experienced, and each time the action occurs, instead of remembering and reflection.

what if people can't remember what it was? The question is not to remember, and that in the space of therapy to restore and create a new story, verbalize their feelings, reflecting on actions and impulses. The obsessive repetition every time reveals the picture and gives you a chance to change. People have the idea that if they understand where the problem is "pumped" it, it will be solved, but experience shows that it takes time, and then back again in one form or another. The paradox is that "symptoms" must live in therapy, but it needs time to obsessive repetition unfolded in the space of therapy. Why people can not eradicate the problem in everyday life? Because objects are chosen for a relationship "bad" people like those "bad" from the past. Further, the circle unfolds, the whole drama of the relationship.

Obsessive repetition in the deeper context of psychoanalytic theory is a manifestation of the death drive. In a simple sense is a desire to stop, to finish, to destroy, terminate anything that is relevant to themselves and their own lives, relationships with other people. The communication gap in the life and space of therapy is one of the clearest illustrations of the attraction of death. People crowded the affects, but can not survive and to give meaning to events. For a therapist or other in the relationship is projected the same "badness" in the form of hatred, enmity, people flooded the unbearable feelings that the mind can not process, to be in a relationship with a "bad" different or "bad" therapist cannot, therefore, choose a familiar method in action: to break, to stop doing something, stop, go...

Breaking the link, the person is trying to get rid of "bad". You can leave therapy and you can stay with the hope for recovery that is extremely difficult. The therapist can be neither good nor bad. While the therapist is "good" all makes and makes and there is nothing to worry about from the positive Ironing stroked the patient will not be cured. When the therapist becomes the good and the bad, you can keep the emotional talks, the opportunity to experience, observe, conceptualize, then the obsessive repetition of moves in a dialogue situation. Recurrence can still occur, but they are less emotionally charged, less automatic habitual action, more opportunities to report their distress, discomfort, get support. Appears security zone – a new experience reliable relationships where the person feels valuable, feels that it considered, therefore, in their real life, there is an opportunity to build safe relationships with people, feeling important and valuable.