And flowed my thoughts in this way. Rather, it is not even an article, but my thoughts on the subject, and so I apologize in advance for the confusion and not the smoothness of the language of the narrative.
If the work tool is my "inner child", then at least you need to know:
- about its existence (it is often buried under a thick layer of "must", "must", "no", in principle, is rejected by a part, etc.);
- about its features, difficulties, about what he did? (cranky, demanding, useless, creative, forgotten, condemned and repressed - it's all very interesting thinking about the self);
- about his injuries (necessarily, in my opinion, for professionals; injury can not be closed, but knowing about them is definitely worth it).
If a child had a particular injury (unconscious, and therefore unknown to me), then work with the client-child can be projective identification.
His "baby" I placed in the client as a "good mother" start to take care of him. And most importantly, not about the actual client, and the fact that most respond, exaggerated through the lens of "trauma." Have to experience the trauma of rejection - I will work with this process, but for this client it may not be a figure of session and the work as a whole. And the result is not therapy, a real client, and the therapy of their children in the client. If was experienced, but not spent a lot of injustice, then I'll "notice" to the customer just that.
Not to say that the client will not benefit. This is not so. Get. After all, something that will provoke a response of this trauma, he and I will face. Right here, from the ceiling, reaction, emotion and hypothesis is not born. But if we talk about working with the request to be serviced is not the original customer request. He will most likely need something else. He, for example, about the injustice or emotional abuse to come.
All of this sounds a bit sad, since there are no completely "otheroperating" psychologists, we all have an echo of their traumas and difficult life experiences. I dare to say that being totally "healthy", if at all possible - people do not choose the profession of a psychologist.
But in the process of reflection I comes up with the idea that self-injury can be a great resource for working with the client, perhaps even support.
the Psychologist heals the scars and wounds cured. He coped, survived, and thus translates the client that he can.
If the experience, for example, had an experience of rejection, then my asset is the ability to survive "alone", I know how it touched this experience. And then somehow adapted to life, I have a long-term relationship (friendship or family), so resources were found. And I do know about them.
I leaned to adapt to their given, even if not perfect? What helped me, how?
the Answer to all these questions I already have. And I can help your client to get answers for myself, in one form or another, to make it clear that I know this, of course, and I survived that.
My legs began:........
let's Go find yours.
And not so important elaborate this trauma in therapy or not (although it would be better to work and for the quality of their lives, and for the quality of work with client). It is important that knowing about their "difficult" places I already have something to share with my client. And also, I am conditionally "ready" to, I tend to see in the client, which will react more acutely. My sensitivity in this area will be high. And is about to remember. For example, personally, my sensitive area is wine, "guilty", "not goodness" and I'm more sensitive about it.
then I slightly slow down, turn to the inner phenomenology and ask myself this I have a client (a child or an adult is not that important), or it speaks ill place my baby, my old injury? Right now I can draw from this experience? What words or processes of the client woke up that feeling or sense?
Like, then I can test themselves on the sustainability of their work and to take the resource from the response and injuries, and not to be in the flow and "let the bears where the bears".
these are the thoughts ferment in my head on the topic of trauma and resource. A bit chaotic. To Express their thoughts in a text to me harder than aloud, a living person. But that's hardly a serious article or a guide to action, but what I wanted to share, to reflect in writing.Answering your question, I see great resources in the experience of travmatizatsii, heavy experience and feelings are important to be familiar with them. Then they can serve as a prop to further his own life and in professional practice.