When it comes to psychogenic emotional disorders (neurosis, depression, addiction), much attention is given to childhood, traumatic events, negative life experience, limiting attitudes, peculiarities of personality and character. But today I propose a look into the pantry of negative thinking. Specifically, in the direction of a completely typical emotional disorders alarming of the funnel alarm.
Then are quite reasonable explanations for what "reasons for alarm", "any Intrusive thoughts – no...". And already during these studies looks out the sequence of the funnel alarm.
Step 1. Doubt and depreciation.
This couple almost always goes hand in hand and often falls off the radar of human consciousness. You can doubt whether you have acted correctly. To doubt whether you do what you do. Can you doubt that you will succeed in the future. But any doubts give rise to uncertainty. Simply by definition. And already the uncertainty potentiates your concern.
obacteriaceae more difficult. We depreciate other people and circumstances. Appreciate the problems and themselves. We do this in order to relieve the stress from those situations in which we find ourselves. Often do it unconsciously, and therefore do not notice how they themselves dig a solid Foundation for alarm. After all, devaluing something we don'T use in the situation order. On the contrary we deny her order. Thus potenziruet the alarm.
Step 2. Labels, assumptions and interpretations in his side (with the sign "-")
these thoughts and conclusions is available from the previous step and may appear by themselves. Their distinguishing feature is that emotionally they actively stimulate the alarm. After assessing yourself or the situation negatively, we automatically create the sensation of a definite suffering from its consequences. Although, it would seem, well, how can you suffer from the phrase "here I'm a bum," or "I'm here, of course, made a mistake?" But given the fact that hanging labels, we do not offer any problem-solving situation,... we bring to any situation is more uncertainty. Yes, and don't notice this consciously.
Step 3. Trying to look for a problem.
Every negative label that you send in their direction, could easily go into trying to start to look for reasons why it happened that way. If you called yourself "stupid", then you can start to consider why you did just that stupid. Or why you're not smart enough. If you find that your emotions are excessive, then you can start to think about the degree and cause of their abnormality. Or you can ask questions from the series – and how normal that is. You can listen to your thoughts, the sensations in the body. That, of course, significantly increases the level of alertness.
Step 4. The negative expectations.
Anyone looking for something negative in yourself (your health, your sanity, in my experience) can easily lead to thoughts about how what is happening now will affect the future. Corona thought style "and if it be so," "and if I lose control", "what if I go crazy," "and if something goes wrong", "what if I become worse" can quickly flood the consciousness. Usually, such thoughts the person is trying to block purely mechanical. In the style of "don't think about it". That only exacerbates the situation, so as to control my thoughts only reinforces the internal stress and increases the number of its spontaneous negative thoughts.
Step 5. Tautology.
We all know that 1+1 = 2. In mathematics. But in the psyche and nuclear physics this equation can give a completely different result. So, if you take 1 of the plutonium atom and another atom of plutonium, but to disperse them properly, that is not even 2 atoms of plutonium. But the beginning of a nuclear reaction. The psyche is the same. Take any negative idea, repeat it twice in a row. And ... your anxiety is enhanced by multiples. For example, you can say to yourself:
- well, this is not normal. It is definitely not okay.
- and if I can't do? Now, what happens if I can't
And all. Anxiety increases SHARPLY.
Step 6. Hyped record.
And the next step – this is a variation of the previous, but with different angles and different sauce. When you start to think about the problem situation emotionally and pointless. Style:
And if I can't cope with the situation? But if everything is bad!? I can't stand it! Well, why was I so bad?! Why did I get such a life! It's not fair! I don't want to solve it! I'm just tired...
Well, and so on and so forth. In this step, there are no specific features except one. A lot of thought – no offers. The word really. There are only thoughts and emotions. And anxiety that swells by leaps and bounds.
Step 7th. The feeling of losing the ability to influence the situation.
the longer and harder you think about a disturbing situation you WITHOUT having to make a decision and begin to implement it, the higher the likelihood that at some point you will feel their own impotence. In this case, you can say that nothing depends on you. What you can not do anything. What you do not. What have you (with your own emotions, desires or thoughts) can't do anything. Or you can try to shift the responsibility for their condition at close, important people, doctors (for example, panic attacks many people immediately call the ambulance). But would not stay alone with their feelings. And they are dramatically enhanced. Because impotence is always fanning the alarm.
Step 8th. Peremptory judgment.
And ends with a knot of anxiety at one point – at the very moment when you yourself have something to say. At the peak of emotional tension. Something nobody (except you) has not been proven, but the most succinct and sharp.
for Example. All, I have lost my mind. This is a delusional thought! I have nothing to help. All, as I always will be. My life is over! I have only one way out!
the Phrase can sound without much pathos, but then definitely with the emotional pressure. It can be not very conscious. But the man unconsciously identifies and repeats. As the nail in the coffin of this idea is hammered into the consciousness again and again, gives a couple of anxiety and powerlessness.
a Couple of clarifications. All of the above does not require the presence of all steps in any given situation. That is, such thoughts can be posted in time. And you can truly believe in such thoughts and actively to protect them, claiming that this is what you think. Or that this is how things are. But, mind you, such thoughts can not help you out of problematic situations. That is,
A) regular top features of your negative emotions
B) guiding your thoughts in the context of a constructive, positive, or long-term thinking; for example, asking themselves at the moment of the sound of any negative thoughts about what I want in the current situation.
And if you have not YET obtained, it only means that that you have not YET obtained. Nothing more.
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