In the article I want to consider possible difficulties in personal life, in relationships, with whom can to face the woman, who did not know the father's love because of physical absence of the Pope. I'm talking about situations where the girl your dad did not know.

the Physical presence of the father in the life of the daughter, of course, does not guarantee his love and care for her, but these life situations leave outside the scope of this publication.

so what personal difficulties can interfere with a woman who grew up without a father?

1.The world of men she is not familiar from the inside. She understands the world only in theory. Girl who lives with her father, knows that there is mom, but a dad. She sees dad in different situations, see how he laughs and swears like; what is happy and what upset; what dad likes to do, and he did not like; that the Pope loves to eat and dislikes.

the Girl, who grew up in a full family, he sees how the relationship with mom and dad. She is in close contact with the Pope, and produces its unique and natural style of communicating with man. For her fellowship with the person of the other sex is sometimes joyful, sometimes bitter, sometimes she feels understanding, sometimes not. But her man is the same man of flesh and blood and not a creature from another planet.

the Girl's father didn't know, has a theoretical knowledge learn how "right" to communicate with men. As she had no child experience close contact with the Pope, it men will not feel amaterue them, it has a huge and complex theoretical knowledge about the "how".

Information about "how" to communicate with a man, and can be gleaned from literature, from movies, from any exchange wise femininity, or stervologii. Sentences whole sea... take your Pick, do not want!

this is mitigated if the girl grew up with an older brother, or uncle often talked with grandpa... And the situation becomes really difficult for the girls, if any men was not there.

What to do? All of us something comes easy and nothing in life, and something we have worked long and hard to learn. If you recognize yourself in the description, try to expand your world and see men take interest in them. Maybe it's your colleagues, your friends. What do you like? What's not to like? What these people interesting? What is special about them? What is their strength and their weakness? Than they like you, and what is the difference? Speculate and explore the fascinating world of men!

2.Low female self-esteem. the Girl from the Pope gets the knowledge about its appeal. Dad might not tell her every day how beautiful she is. But the girl already knows that if daddy loves her. Dad is the first man where the girl tries feminine, the first man to complete host and her adoring.

the Girl, who knew the father's love, feminine and self-sufficient. It is unlikely to squirm like a snake to someone to like or someone about to hold herself. She knows that in itself is worthy of love and respect.

the Girl who grew up without a father, can not know about its appeal. It has no inner confidence. It can be very beautiful, and very smart, but do not consider yourself worthy of a good life, a happy relationship.

She may not understand why she has these relationships, do not see their value. And can assume that it needs a lot of work that you loved. Just so no one will not love you. And the need of love in her huge and easier.

3.Symbiotic fusion with the mother. Yes, the absence of a father in a girl's life can provoke such a situation. Especially if the mother is not building personal relationships with men, not implemented at work, does not communicate with her, and she has no other children, and all emotional needs are invited to close daughter.

Attempts daughters in adolescence and continue to escape from these suffocating, tightly sealed relationship in his life, resisted mom charged with treachery and ingratitude. Arise difficulties in separation. In the most severe cases, the daughter remains with the mother, and all life maintains her physical and emotional needs.

Psychoanalyst françoise Kushar says "parent salvationto" how about the capture, attribution, tone of slavery. In his book, "mothers and Daughters: the third wheel" analyst Carolyn Eliacheff and sociologist Natalie Aish say that in a healthy version of symbiosis between mother and daughter is broken in the third person – the father.

"Eric came into the world not before he passed the difficult years of married life. As soon as his father passed the baton to his daughter, he promptly "left the scene". Eric appeared, his father had disappeared, – it is impossible to Express a "replacement" father child." - the authors analyze the work of Elfriede Jelinek's "the Pianist".

In this dramatic situation, the girl becomes your identity. identical to the cut together with my mother, she lives not her life, does not feel, does not know himself.

What to do? If you recognize yourself in the latter situation, then, please, address to the specialist psychologist. On their own, being already a grown woman, to separate from mommy and build her identity you will not succeed.