You're not giving yourself the right to aggression?

In response to hear: "I'm tired of scandals, tired of the useless struggle, want to learn to love, to be calm, to accept, to reconcile, there is the example of my mother, she in life the tone is not raised."

From the other side of the conflict is and daughter and husband, and mom. And here begins the person himself to suppress. The motive seems to him beautiful. A noble goal. Conflict-free relationships. Happy, always smiling family. And the poor woman tries, is silent and smiles when the husband does not get out of the phone in the evenings, my mother feeds uninvited pies on Sundays from 7 in the morning, the son does not want to wash the dishes, and come home on time.

the Protest, a feeling that you are using, chokes and takes away the strength. She comes in and says, "I can do it. An entire week without yelling at anyone". In fact, she screams. The cry I hear. The cry is heard close. He rings them in the ears, he stuns, makes the brain, they resist him: they continue to do all the things she hates.

- I feel like a doormat... I squeezed lemon... I think I don't love him... And brings herself to despair, to hopelessness. If we went into the tunnel, Yes ran, not looking back to the middle, hard to see anything around him, except for wet, dirty, dark walls.

Aggression rolled under the asphalt grim determination with a nice slogan in the hand "all love", "be good", "agematsu", "allblues", "luckydog".

With the child in person laid certain limitations that hinder the realization of his resources and reveal all its potential. Thus, many behaviors are formed during the process of socialization. Why today there is a rejection of what would seem suited people before?

Why did the mother of this woman lives quietly, absolutely sure at the very least need to feed loved ones with cakes, not interested in whether they are in the morning on a Sunday? Why, in response to the complaint of the daughter of excessive fatigue, she says, not understanding, and teaching talk on the theme "God is patient and told us," and habitually runs youthful gait, blown up by a sudden call long adult sons "where are you now? Socks clean not find."

Mother did not give himself the right to aggression. Maybe she didn't? No there is no demand. The habit of cleaning up after everyone in the family, to serve and to please is nature? The picture old Testament women is to be yourself? Where her aggression? Where is it fatigue? This recipe for a happy life, she gave her daughter and does not take seriously the complaints and anger. "Dicking around" - the diagnosis is final and not appealable.

Oh, yeah, there's a win-win in time to go to confession, to read spiritual literature, to consult with the priest and pray. Once this particular mom didn't believe. Did not go to Church, and the voltage shoved under the pillow soaked with tears. Believed in 1999 when he was unemployed, made a lot of money did not. On the resulting emptiness of the Church was the best solution, and the sacrificial help to others peculiar to it, and sooner, found the true meaning.

the Daughter continued to "fuck around". I went to a psychologist, didn't help. Arguing with children not thanked the mother periodically had planned a divorce. Live in aggressive voltage over the years – hard work. Well, who actually easy? Locking, closing on the padlock in his aggression, she doomed themselves to dependent relations.

Even the role of "terpily" you can play "decent", who would argue, I won't. Seen. Know. In this role, you can see the comfort for themselves, to adorn themselves with the title "the good mother", "best wife."

of Course, you can live with that. People have lived and we live. And it is even possible to speculate about flexibility, when "please" me. Probably so and that way you are "offended". The same son, for example, when mA's finally time to give him clean socks and a three-course meal. Well cakes or don't want, and just want to sleep.

my Mom found a pill, its consolation and salvation was religion. Daughter "wiatomo lemon" has yet to make a choice. Aggression, launched myself, the weakness and instability of the in relationships with family, sooner or later lead either to disease or to seek "comfort", whether in religion or alcohol.

maybe it will take, and choose life.

Everything is changing so rapidly in our time. Self-awareness covers sometimes unexpectedly. And choosing life, it will give itself the right to aggression. The right to boundaries and respect. And be able to defend them.

And the pies at mom's are still very tasty. And sometimes you can go to visit her family and polarcat (with cabbage, potatoes, liver and meat).

NOT client history. The characters are made up of many different. Cakes are not mine, and from the Internet))