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If you noticed, I publish a series of articles, which is devoted not only to the way of liberation from dependency, but also the place of "substance" in modern life. Under the substance means any drugs that change the state of consciousness. For example: alcohol, caffeine, nicotine, valokordin etc. (allowed in our country), hashish, marijuana, spice, LSD (banned from us, legalized in some countries), heroin, cocaine (banned in most countries, but as always, options). Taking all of these substances can bring a certain pleasure, they bring to life some variety, all of them are addictive, enter a person into a state of dependency, destroy the health, the psyche, destiny, life itself.

So why do people insist on their use, and often do try to pass on their, um, "experience" children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren? This is sometimes called "folk traditions", sometimes "shamanic experience", but the essence is the same: why the negative state is clearly dependent on matter persistently transmitted to the next generations?

Why adults do people do it? I guess that would be primarily to increase the flock "like-minded". What has always been, someone to hold, someone to run for the bottle, however, with whom to eat. The fact that the kids, God forbid, if after 21 years, and then shamelessly adults hooked on alcohol, one would not deny, right? Alas, the same with drugs!

it's possible that people dependent (including a dependent psychologically) occur illusion "benefit" from the taking of the substance, its only "usefulness" in solving real-life problems. Therefore, advocating, explicitly or by implication. Let's look at how things really are.

Communication. A person can envy someone else's sociability, humor, and the ability to build a conversation. And that would be "as interesting" - warms himself by alcohol, hashish, cocaine and other poisons.

One of my clients, 28-year-old N. went to a psychologist "to develop"... Development saw its creation of family and education. With the previous wife divorced a year ago. "I did not want to develop," - a reason he was called in the beginning. "Saw and changed" - he admitted later. He met her at the disco, both were intoxicated. Lived for two years. It is, in his words, "didn't want to evolve, and I wanted to do." After the divorce, decided to meet a good girl. At the factory where he worked, the "good" from his point of view was not. Then he positively adjusted, enrolled in College, what education to get, and to get acquainted with good girls, that would have been the choice for the realization of dreams.

Only the accursed shyness were not allowed to Express themselves in conversation. Was wondering what to do, what to say... the Decision came quickly: what to communicate freely, began to use alcohol as early discos. Only in slightly smaller quantities: we have to learn at the same time, after all. In General, everything began to turn, and even went quite casual acquaintance with the Sorority girls... Just tipsy – he acquainted, unfortunately, with "bad" girls. For those whom he thought good, he was drunk flatly uninteresting.

it took Some time N. in order to realize that for development it is necessary to begin to defeat the psychological dependence on alcohol. The next step is to work with shyness. Role-based training in the theatre group, working out Dating with girls in different situations. Then the real fun, at first, failed, conclusions from the mistakes, correcting the behavior. Cope with shyness is practically freed from alcohol dependence, has opened the way for development. In his case, worked such a scheme.

by the Way, the story of the first marriage 28-year-old N. – a classic example of the emergence and subsequent collapse of some parts of Russian families met after drinking. Because of vodka later divorced.

Sorry, need to overcome shyness without the use of harmful substances realize until very few.

Tired after work. The Mason after work, buzzing hands. The crawler lines. From working at the computer objectively tense eyes. And related occipital muscles. To recover after work can help long massage skillful hands. Or half an hour swimming in the sea/pool. Or... 20-30 grams of cognac. Well, it is if directly. After a while you begin to feel the remnants of the opposing voltages, the man drank another 50 grams... and here is after the working holiday is starting to gain its momentum. At least 65% of the British believe the pub is the best place to relax after work.

Creative crisis. He can come at any time. In the form of boredom, lack of thoughts, or Vice versa, abundance of seamy side in the head and the complete absence of positive. It is clear that alcohol or other substances at some time create the illusion of fullness ideas, inspiration and General positive attitude.

Stress. Conflicts to awaken an impulsive animal. Want to tear the opponent to pieces. If this is not possible to cry as long as the offender will not be punished fairly senior. Inside the jitters, the confusion, the flow of negative thoughts. But for normal life need positive. Including the fact that to make peace, to turn an enemy into a partner to continue to make common cause. The fastest way to change your status in the case of stress – to take the substance. Some depends on habit and on the severity of the stress factor. From nicotine to heroin, everything is in motion, in accordance with the personal depravity of the individual and his environment. Escape from stress – the main cause of the dependence of man on the substances. The greater the dependence, the less stress will be the trigger for your next appointment.

Conclusions. As you can see, with the substance stuck illusion "a solver of problems." With more objective consideration, of course, to find that the problems from the substance there is more: increased money, increased wear of the body, deadly addiction as a result. But while the worst did not happen, people illusions, for quick pleasure distorts the reality.

Oh, and for those who conceives exemption substance: have any questions – write to the PM, the thing is...

All others: good problem solving – sober!