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Today we talk about the phenomenon of "learned helplessness".

How often do you think: "I can control nothing, nothing is impossible to change, others it turns out I don't have"? Learned helplessness is a behaviour in which a person does not attempt to improve the situation or your condition, even when there is an opportunity to change something.

the Problem is that we zveroboem: if in this situation there was nothing I could change, then in other situations will also. Becoming a habitual way of thinking and gives us new experiences. Everything leads to the fact that we cease to try and act. Man begins to catastrophizing (to exaggerate possible negative consequences).

How does learned helplessness in life:

1. People may move for a more realistic goal easier to achieve. For example, to clean the apartment.

2. The constant feeling of guilt. The person believes that if something happened, it's just luck, and failures happen because of him. Because he is not smart, handsome and ambitious. It's his habitual way of thinking.

3. Constant complaints and grievances.

4. The avoidance of responsibility.

What:

  1. If you notice the symptoms of learned helplessness, then immediately take your thoughts under control. Start to ask yourself the right questions: what evidence do I have that the worst happens, etc.
  2. When you answer them, look at their capabilities. Take the
    sheet and list all the things that you can do in a problematic situation.
  3. Switch your attention to successes and achievements. Get
    a special diary where you will record this. Start small.
    for Example, if the time came for the meeting.
  4. Try to determine what is in your area of control. What you can start doing right now? Make a plan and start acting. Then you can put that in your diary of success.

it is Worth remembering that our thoughts determine how we interpret the situation. Whether it is negative or positive depends on you!



skrynnikova Elizabeth