In life there are different moments. We are in a relationship, then no. And everyone decides itself that it is freedom, privacy or solitude...
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it is believed that the person must necessarily be a second "half". If he's not whole without a loved one (sweetheart) / husband (wife). And know: to me this belief seems absurd.
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Just imagine: you are only someone's soul mate. And consist of one part of the body - left and right. (That's to your taste). 1 ear, 1 eye, 1 arm, 1 leg, etc. Presented? The wildness, and not man. Don't you think?
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of Course, speaking about your sweetheart, we mean not the physical body. No. Probably more mental, spiritual closeness with the alleged / real partner.
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But how many really happy couples have you seen in your life? 1? 5? 10? Usually they can be counted on the fingers. True?
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But around you, for sure, a lot more people in the relationship. And to put it mildly, surprising. To say the least.
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Why is this happening? What man, even when paired, doesn't feel inspired? It's simple: from the fact that he is unhappy with himself. And looking for another who would be able to "numb" his pain. "Close" the feeling of emptiness. Fill it with joy.
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Only this is not happening. Why? Because like attracts like!
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If you are alone do not feel happy, harmonious, meaningful, joyful, self-sufficient, etc., then partner will not be able to give you that. You will both be like little children to act up and demand: "Give me love, care, attention!"
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But in everyone's mind is a black hole. And there must be a willingness to first give and then receive. You need here, now and immediately!
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Only so will not work. After all, you need to fill themselves, and not to resort to outside help!
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Another option is not given. Only filled with himself (itself) -- to give love -- close to her from them in return. And nothing else.
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so expect that someone will come and "make" you happy is a waste of time and nerves. But take care of yourself, give everything you desire (love, attention, care, reliability, etc.) - is a real challenge. And most importantly - doable!
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Because do yourself and family a gift in this wonderful holiday. Spread a little happiness on Valentine's Day. no matter how. Yourself that others will be pleasant any little thing. (Whether a card, a flower, a smile, a cake, gratitude, compliment, hug or etc.). Just let your imagination run wild!
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And you will notice how the world around will change. And on a shower becomes warmer. (And let winter outside, but at heart it's gonna be spring!) After getting what he wants only he who asks for nothing. And if he wants, he asks. And not offended in the event of a failure...
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With Valentine's day, my lovelies! Love yourself, others and be loved!
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Cordially yours,
psychologist Svetlana Lebedeva.