I Noticed such a thing for a long time that stories of success (and was in full...not in gold) often do not work.
moreover, they can irritate people.
Even this is both tragic and life-affirming book is Victor Frankl's "Say Yes to life, sometimes, is perceived by a person sufficiently depressed with the guilt ("That's how people suffered and did not break, I Have the same - garbage, nonsense, and I limp", "the Man could in those conditions, I – no, loser").
Why is this happening? (I'm talking about success stories, not about Frankl)
But the experience of others to learn, I believe you need to analyze it, learn from it and see what I can take for myself.
And we should analyse not only successful experience, but unsuccessful.
so I wrote a note, "Mexican vacation" (https://www.b17.ru/blog/meksikanskie_vihodnie/#c1342174 ), as decided for themselves to participate in the world championship, so I also remained in the memories of the feeling of this holiday.
frankly, from birth are a shy person. And in childhood often themselves abused that they are not superabile, combat girl. In six years I demanded to be called a boy. Then watched a film about daring a little girl from Georgia Manana and begged everyone to call themselves Mamani. Could not accept his individuality.
But now I'm a psychologist and getting your personality to take. And I agree with the recent article here Irina Rebrushing: its limitations need to understand and accept.
And anyone who has trouble communicating, and read the note as I built relationships with people to achieve their goals, can analyze what I was doing, and decide yeah, I can, but - no, but you can. Can – here.
of Course, there are those who say, "What garbage, that kind of nonsense to be afraid to approach people and ask to take a picture". Dear friends, the article is then clearly not for You. You've done a job and a ticket to the success you have in your pocket!)))
Article for those who have difficulty in communicating!
so, what methods and techniques I used:
- Reacted and included interest on the reverse side (as it was with the guy that was photographed first);
- I Responded to the emotions of others (when Mexicans were given five, all responded, shouting in response to their cry, chanted along with them, she refused to be photographed);
- we Used the method of "sit down". Was photographed near begging, began to talk to them; (as the woman is Natasha, a drunk Russian fan);
- Voiced his desires to anyone who can help to implement. (Told Natasha about what you want to be photographed in a sombrero).
- Spoke at a convenient time with people. So he met the second day with the Light when going to the stadium, and the hostess Susanna. Talked a bit before that with the other two women. If suddenly people won't communicate or is reluctant to leave him alone. Remember, as the song from Leopold:
I go and sing about all good, And I give my smile to passers-by, If you feel strange don't find the answer - the Trouble that we will survive! By the way, we will survive!
So, dear friends, all the stories are study to your experience, not for his self-flagellation.
good Luck!
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